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My fiancé and I got engaged last year before I was accepted into medical school. We picked a date and a venue based on an important date to him. We pick 9/9/17 and I will be in my second year. We realize we cant take our honeymoon right away. I was wondering if anyone got married when classes were actually in session. How did that work for you and how receptive were the schools?
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I can't imagine why a certain date would be more important than your studies. Any time someone comes on here saying they have a special date in mind, everyone reminds them that they need to be flexible and that the date you get married will be special because it will be your anniversary.
I also seriously doubt the school would be okay with this. It's one thing if it's someone else's wedding that you have to attend, but you picked your own date, so why would they work around your schedule when you should've worked around theirs?
That being said, I do know a classmate who got married in September this past fall. Her wedding was over the weekend, but she was back in class on Monday, and waited to take her honeymoon over winter break. Our professors are very strict about missing classes -- in fact, by rule of the American Bar Association, if we miss a certain number of days, students may be expelled. I would not be shocked to learn the American Medical Association also has a similar rule for med students.
My parents met in med school, and got married during their 3rd year. They conveniently waited for a weekend before a conference in November they were expected to attend. Their wedding was VERY small and informal (both sets of my grandparents, a handful of friends, and most [but not all] of their siblings. . . about 15 people total). They then went to the conference which lasted a week, but they got their program to help reimburse travel costs, so they took the train and counted that as their honeymoon.
So, it is possible, but just be aware that if you choose to stick with your date, that you will probably want to be back in class the Monday after, and maybe wait to take a honeymoon at a later time (winter break seems to be better than summers even, due to the reason I listed above about internships).
If the day is that important to you, that's great get married then. But I wouldn't expect to be able to take any time off of classes.
I'm just pointing that out so you know that now is a good time to let go of hard and fast plans and learn to be flexible. You said this date is important to FI, so now might be a good time to sit down with him and explain how radically medical school and being a doctor is going to change your lives.
Also, why on earth is your username your actual name? You should probably change it for internet security reasons.
ETA: It was really easy to find you, particularly since you used your full name and also posted on local boards. I'm not trying to be a creep, but I am trying to prevent you from allowing an actual creep to access your life.
My fiance has 10 binders filled to capacity from information just during first year. You have no idea how you're going to handle that kind of information overload until you experience it. So hold off and don't plan your wedding until you start and get a better handle on things. Fourth year of med school is an ideal time to plan your wedding.
If you have the choice, I'd move it. If that date is really important to your FI, is he willing to do all the planning/coordinating so you have time for your studies? If not, I don't think you should keep that date.