Ok, please bear with me. A little background... My FI is South American, from Peru. He's lived here in the US since he was a teenager and as far as customs go for either culture he could care less. Originally I wanted to keep my name, for every reason there is and FI is not surprised or bothered by it. When we have kids we would give them both of our last names, my last name is also a unisex first name so giving that to all of my kids as a middle name was also an option.
However, I looked more into FI and his family's names and I really like how some South Americans name their kids. His parents both kept their own names when they married but they gave both last names, with no hyphen, to their children. They have four names but only really use the first and paternal last. I know that's customary for a lot of Latin countries but then my FI brought up the idea of adding each other's last names and I do like the idea of sharing a name with him.
So, we would both have two last names, not hyphenated and we can continue using our own last names professionally. I like this idea best, no one has to have a hyphenated name but we get to share a name and it still feels very equal, which is important to me.
Does anyone have experience with that kind of name change? Did your parents give you both of their names? I'm, not sure about the logistics.