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Re: Two weddings in one family... things are getting a little awkward

  • JediElizabethJediElizabeth member
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    Knottie1453305971 said:
    adk19 said:
    Heffalump said:
    climbingwife said:
    Until how long after your wedding are people supposed to put their lives on hold?
    I'm going to say a fortnight, but only because I feel like "fortnight" is vastly underutilized. 
    I like fortnight, but I'm going to say a Season.  So, if I'm getting married summer of 2017, nobody is allowed to have a life until Fall of 2017.  No engagements, certainly no weddings, no pregnancies, no graduations, no moving to new cities, no new jobs.  I get from the day of my engagement through Summer of 2017 all to myself.  This applies to bridal party and immediate relatives; cousins and peripheral friends can do whatever the hell they want because I can just disinvite them from my wedding if they don't give me the proper space and sparkles.
    You laugh, but a friend of mine who is planning her wedding "had" to schedule hers for the winter because one of her friends is getting married in the fall and threw a fit over my friend getting married the same season. 

    To avoid arguments my friend scheduled hers for the winter, but I couldn't believe this girl going on and on about how "I can't believe you'd do that to me, you're a horrible person." 
    Was this girl's last name Bennet?
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  • TrixieJessTrixieJess member
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    Knottie1453305971 said:
    adk19 said:
    Heffalump said:
    climbingwife said:
    Until how long after your wedding are people supposed to put their lives on hold?
    I'm going to say a fortnight, but only because I feel like "fortnight" is vastly underutilized. 
    I like fortnight, but I'm going to say a Season.  So, if I'm getting married summer of 2017, nobody is allowed to have a life until Fall of 2017.  No engagements, certainly no weddings, no pregnancies, no graduations, no moving to new cities, no new jobs.  I get from the day of my engagement through Summer of 2017 all to myself.  This applies to bridal party and immediate relatives; cousins and peripheral friends can do whatever the hell they want because I can just disinvite them from my wedding if they don't give me the proper space and sparkles.
    You laugh, but a friend of mine who is planning her wedding "had" to schedule hers for the winter because one of her friends is getting married in the fall and threw a fit over my friend getting married the same season. 

    To avoid arguments my friend scheduled hers for the winter, but I couldn't believe this girl going on and on about how "I can't believe you'd do that to me, you're a horrible person." 
    Ooookkkaaay, and did this seem right to you? Or did you roll your eyes and say "What are you 3?" Because those would have been the normal reactions to this, and then ignoring said friend. Just because the other "friend" has no backbone and couldn't say "no, I'm not doing that", doesn't mean someone else has to.

    As everyone else has stated, you get one day, she gets one day. If things are easier for people to have a shower because everyone will be in town the day after your wedding, what does it matter to you? Your wedding will be done and you will be (hopefully) off on your honeymoon with your husband.
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  • londinium215londinium215 member
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    @JediElizabeth - nope

    @TrixieJess - my disbelief at the situation may not have appropriately come through. I was merely pointing out that while we're laughing about it, some people do believe it's right to claim more than one day. I told my friend that she should ignore the other girl and just book her wedding for when she wanted it (especially considering the other girl still hasn't booked hers!), because the other girl gets one day, not one season. 
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    Knottie1453305971 said:
    adk19 said:
    Heffalump said:
    climbingwife said:
    Until how long after your wedding are people supposed to put their lives on hold?
    I'm going to say a fortnight, but only because I feel like "fortnight" is vastly underutilized. 
    I like fortnight, but I'm going to say a Season.  So, if I'm getting married summer of 2017, nobody is allowed to have a life until Fall of 2017.  No engagements, certainly no weddings, no pregnancies, no graduations, no moving to new cities, no new jobs.  I get from the day of my engagement through Summer of 2017 all to myself.  This applies to bridal party and immediate relatives; cousins and peripheral friends can do whatever the hell they want because I can just disinvite them from my wedding if they don't give me the proper space and sparkles.
    You laugh, but a friend of mine who is planning her wedding "had" to schedule hers for the winter because one of her friends is getting married in the fall and threw a fit over my friend getting married the same season. 

    To avoid arguments my friend scheduled hers for the winter, but I couldn't believe this girl going on and on about how "I can't believe you'd do that to me, you're a horrible person." 
    Any woman who is BSC enough to Bogart an entire season is not a friend and the best way to avoid an argument with her would be to end the friendship. 
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    thefanciestbeckler said:
    adk19 said:
    Heffalump said:
    climbingwife said:
    Until how long after your wedding are people supposed to put their lives on hold?
    I'm going to say a fortnight, but only because I feel like "fortnight" is vastly underutilized. 
    I like fortnight, but I'm going to say a Season.  So, if I'm getting married summer of 2017, nobody is allowed to have a life until Fall of 2017.  No engagements, certainly no weddings, no pregnancies, no graduations, no moving to new cities, no new jobs.  I get from the day of my engagement through Summer of 2017 all to myself.  This applies to bridal party and immediate relatives; cousins and peripheral friends can do whatever the hell they want because I can just disinvite them from my wedding if they don't give me the proper space and sparkles.
    Let's not forget that all of the months (and even years, if applicable) prior to the wedding are blocked out too. Nobody is allowed to go on vacation, go out to eat with non-WP friends, talk about someone else's wedding, think about someone else's wedding, or attend someone else's wedding. You can't spend money on anything if you haven't bought your dress/outfit for the wedding yet, and you CERTAINLY cannot have something else to do on the day(s) that the bride wants to go wedding dress shopping- no matter the number of times she wants to shop and no matter how far away you live. Because SHE'S THE BRIDE DAMMIT and this is HER special day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Oh, I thought that went without saying.  Duh!
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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    thefanciestbeckler said:
    adk19 said:
    Heffalump said:
    climbingwife said:
    Until how long after your wedding are people supposed to put their lives on hold?
    I'm going to say a fortnight, but only because I feel like "fortnight" is vastly underutilized. 
    I like fortnight, but I'm going to say a Season.  So, if I'm getting married summer of 2017, nobody is allowed to have a life until Fall of 2017.  No engagements, certainly no weddings, no pregnancies, no graduations, no moving to new cities, no new jobs.  I get from the day of my engagement through Summer of 2017 all to myself.  This applies to bridal party and immediate relatives; cousins and peripheral friends can do whatever the hell they want because I can just disinvite them from my wedding if they don't give me the proper space and sparkles.
    Let's not forget that all of the months (and even years, if applicable) prior to the wedding are blocked out too. Nobody is allowed to go on vacation, go out to eat with non-WP friends, talk about someone else's wedding, think about someone else's wedding, or attend someone else's wedding. You can't spend money on anything if you haven't bought your dress/outfit for the wedding yet, and you CERTAINLY cannot have something else to do on the day(s) that the bride wants to go wedding dress shopping- no matter the number of times she wants to shop and no matter how far away you live. Because SHE'S THE BRIDE DAMMIT and this is HER special day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


    You forgot celibacy for the WP during that time.  Come on now!  No pregnancies, accidental or planned, allowed.

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    short+sassy said:


    You forgot celibacy for the WP during that time.  Come on now!  No pregnancies, accidental or planned, allowed.

    This made me LOL because I could see some of these SS brides calling their BMs daily to check in with them and make sure they're taking their assigned birth control as prescribed by the bride.  Sometimes you just can't trust people!
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  • JediElizabethJediElizabeth member
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    Knottie1453305971 said:
    @JediElizabeth - nope

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    It was a Pride & Prejudice joke. Apparently one that didn't go over so well. ;) 
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  • kimmiinthemittenkimmiinthemitten member
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    JediElizabeth said:
    Knottie1453305971 said:
    @JediElizabeth - nope

    ...
    It was a Pride & Prejudice joke. Apparently one that didn't go over so well. ;) 
    That's what I thought but I wasn't sure. Love it!
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  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold mod
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    Everyone else has this covered pretty well.

    But I want to add a bit about the day after the wedding. OP, are you leaving for your honeymoon that soon? If not, you may still be able to go to the shower. I assumed that I'd be all busy and running around the day after the wedding and I wasn't. At all. H and I had lunch with his mom, we visited a friend we rarely get to see and then hung out with my dad when we picked up our dog from him. NBD at all.

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    Knottie1453305971 said:
    adk19 said:
    Heffalump said:
    climbingwife said:
    Until how long after your wedding are people supposed to put their lives on hold?
    I'm going to say a fortnight, but only because I feel like "fortnight" is vastly underutilized. 
    I like fortnight, but I'm going to say a Season.  So, if I'm getting married summer of 2017, nobody is allowed to have a life until Fall of 2017.  No engagements, certainly no weddings, no pregnancies, no graduations, no moving to new cities, no new jobs.  I get from the day of my engagement through Summer of 2017 all to myself.  This applies to bridal party and immediate relatives; cousins and peripheral friends can do whatever the hell they want because I can just disinvite them from my wedding if they don't give me the proper space and sparkles.
    You laugh, but a friend of mine who is planning her wedding "had" to schedule hers for the winter because one of her friends is getting married in the fall and threw a fit over my friend getting married the same season. 

    To avoid arguments my friend scheduled hers for the winter, but I couldn't believe this girl going on and on about how "I can't believe you'd do that to me, you're a horrible person." 
    Had to? No, she chose to. Or did you leave out the part of the story where Fall Wedding friend was holding Winter Wedding friend at gunpoint until she agreed to schedule her wedding for the winter?
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    One of my BMs is getting married two weeks before me. Almost same colors. I'm really excited for her wedding, although due to her wedding date and mine being so close,neither of us can take much time off for one another's big days. Doesn't matter. 25 years from now, 
    maybe even 50, I'll be toasting her anniversary alongside mine. That is more exciting than any overlapping days now.
                        


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    edited March 2016
    JediElizabeth said:
    Knottie1453305971 said:
    @JediElizabeth - nope

    ...
    It was a Pride & Prejudice joke. Apparently one that didn't go over so well. ;) 
    @JediElizabeth I got it. Austen pride sistah!

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    tigerlily6 said:
    One of my BMs is getting married two weeks before me. Almost same colors. I'm really excited for her wedding, although due to her wedding date and mine being so close,neither of us can take much time off for one another's big days. Doesn't matter. 25 years from now, 
    maybe even 50, I'll be toasting her anniversary alongside mine. That is more exciting than any overlapping days now.
    My father has 3 cousins who are sisters.  They all got married within a few months of each other.   They had a joint 50th anniversary party last summer.   Happily I might add.






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