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Would your maid of honor take the hint if you sent her some activities/locations in an email that said "hey, I was looking at wedding stuff and these sound like some cool ideas for a bachelorette party?" It will give her the hint that you want a party.
Best of luck!
PS - I think if you want to plan one for yourself that is fine, I just wouldn't want you to feel frustrated about the planning process.