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Walking Together

Knottie62971762Knottie62971762 member
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I would like my partner and I to walk down the aisle together, instead of my father walking me down. However, I would still like to to honor him, my mom and stepdad, and also my partner's parents. I have seen suggestions where the parents walk down the aisle (as couples) before the couple walks down, but I would rather just have the bridal party go, then us. Does anyone have any ideas of what we could do at the end of the walk? Give our parents/parent in-laws hugs or flowers or say something in honor of them?
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  • justsiejustsie member
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    I had a friend that had her officiant ask "who gives their blessing on this union?" (or something to that effect) and all 4 parents stood up and said "we do" and sat back down. 
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited March 2016
    Parents and grandparents are usually honored with special corsages/boutonnieres.  You should do this.  Parents do not normally process with the bridal party unless the bride is being escorted by them.  Save honoring speeches for the reception.  The ceremony is to unite the two of you and it should focus on that.
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  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    CMGragain said:
    Parents and grandparents are usually honored with special corsages/boutonnieres.  You should do this.  Parents do not normally process with the bridal party unless the bride is being escorted by them.  Save honoring speeches for the reception.  The ceremony is to unite the two of you and it should focus on that.
    I agree with all of this. Though my dad did escort me, we gave flowers (bout/corsage) to all of the parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles. And reserved the first two rows on either side of the aisle for those family members.
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    edited March 2016

    I think its fine to have your parents all go sit down just prior to the start of the processional.  That would signal to all guests that the ceremony is about to begin.  Seating parents is not associated as being a part of the processional.  But if there is some reason that one parent cannot walk easily or something, then I would just have all parents already at their seats. 

    All parents (ETA: and guests) would stand when you two begin your walk in.  After that, all guests except parents can be asked to be seated.  Your parents would stay standing.  The officiant could give a general welcoming and then ask "Who presents this couple today for marriage?"  Then all parents would answer, "We do.".  They would then sit down and your ceremony would continue as planned.

    Also, give all parents bouts or corsages.

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    My sister didn't have a bridal party.  Groom's dad escorted both the mothers down the aisle.  I, as the officiant, followed.  Then the groom.  Then the bride, escorted by her father.
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    edited March 2016
    My friend and her husband did not have a bridal party when they got married. My friend's father was not invited. She met her DH at the start of the aisle and they walked in together. Their respective mothers presented the rings and signed the marriage license as their witnesses.

    At our wedding, we had both of our parents stand up and the officiant asked each set of parents something about supporting our union, accepting the other (DH or myself) as family, and they responded with "We do".
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  • Sammy1112Sammy1112 member
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    SP29 said:
    My friend and her husband did not have a bridal party when they got married. My friend's father was not invite. She met her DH at the start of the aisle and they walked in together. Their respective mothers presented the rings and signed the marriage license as their witnesses.

    At our wedding, we had both of our parents stand up and the officiant asked each set of parents something about supporting our union, accepting the other (DH or myself) as family, and they responded with "We do".
    Very different but it sounds nice. I'm looking into alternative options since I'm getting married for the 2nd time. I was having doubts about having my Dad give me away sinc he already did but he says he would give me away five times if he had to. :smiley: 
    I think he meant that as a compliment. LOLOLOLOL 
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  • OurWildKingdomOurWildKingdom member
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    SP29 said:

    At our wedding, we had both of our parents stand up and the officiant asked each set of parents something about supporting our union, accepting the other (DH or myself) as family, and they responded with "We do".
    That's lovely. I think our ceremony has something similar; if not, we'll include it.
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  • scrunchythiefscrunchythief member
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    We walked in together, which is actually encouraged by our church, and it was awesome!  But because I kind of wanted to have my cake and eat it too, my dad walked me down the staircase in the lobby of our church to meet DH before the processional.  It was a really sweet moment, but still let us symbolize what we wanted at the start of our marriage:)
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  • CasadenaCasadena member
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    we had the parents walk down kind of as part of the processional (i.e. about 5 minutes before the ceremony start time, and the pianist played specific music).  DH escorted the grandmothers, seated his parents, then my dad seated my mom, then the bridal party started (with different music) then i was escorted by my dad. 
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