I don't want to sound like another spoiled bride, but here goes:
I live on one coast, and (at my mother's insistence) we are getting married on the other coast, where most of my large immediate family lives. I only have two bridesmaids my own age (two junior bridesmaids, my fiance's sisters are 12 & 14), so originally my best friend (Maid of Honor who is local) was going to plan the Bach party, while my sister (Matron of honor, on the other coast) was going to plan a shower. Now my sister has decided she can't do that (about a month ago) or really be involved in anything at all besides showing up for the wedding, even though she agreed to take on MOH duties and privileges when I asked her over a year ago.
My best friend here wants me to have a shower, but cannot plan both a bachelorette party and a shower (and I don't think she should have to). To complicate things further, my mother decided last minute to throw a coed shower when my fiancé and I are home to finalize plans with the venue, cake maker, florist, etc in two weeks. That shower is now all planned.
I don't even care if we have a "shower" out here anymore, but I want my future sisters to feel included as bridesmaids, and I can't really have them at the bachelorette party for obvious alcoholic reasons. My fiance's family is only a couple states away, but there is a snowballs chance in hell that my FMIL will throw a shower for us. Do I have any other options to include them?