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drglitter
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Avoiding food allergies
drglitter
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It seems to be a general rule that the answer to any question that starts with "is it rude if I...?" is YES, but I'm going to ask anyway because I'm not sure.
Is it rude if I include food at the reception that I know a guest is allergic to, if it's just one of many options?
To use a specific example, my BIL is allergic to apples. He doesn't have any contact or airborne allergies to it, but gets itchy if he eats them.
If I include the Brulee apple bruschetta with fig, brie and balsamic reduction (because it's amazing) as one of the appetizers is that super rude? There will be 5 other apps as well.
We have several guests with "minor" allergies to things...apples, bananas, and almonds. Just wondering if I need to avoid them entirely.
One of FH's coworkers is allergic to peanuts (contact, airborne, anaphylactic) so we're avoiding peanuts entirely.
Is it rude if I include food at the reception that I know a guest is allergic to, if it's just one of many options?
To use a specific example, my BIL is allergic to apples. He doesn't have any contact or airborne allergies to it, but gets itchy if he eats them.
If I include the Brulee apple bruschetta with fig, brie and balsamic reduction (because it's amazing) as one of the appetizers is that super rude? There will be 5 other apps as well.
We have several guests with "minor" allergies to things...apples, bananas, and almonds. Just wondering if I need to avoid them entirely.
One of FH's coworkers is allergic to peanuts (contact, airborne, anaphylactic) so we're avoiding peanuts entirely.
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Re: Avoiding food allergies
As someone with a severe anaphylactic shellfish allergy, I never expect people to cater to my needs. I can always find something to eat. My biggest issue is cross contamination, but caterers know how to prepare food without cross contamination (if they know about the allergies ahead of time).
Especially in the case of something that is not severe, I think you have other options available and should be just fine.
It is very nice for FI's coworker to have an allergen free environment. It is very thoughtful of you.
Besides my allergy, we are working around a peanut allergy, all nut allergy, sesame allergy and then kosher meals. I have talked to each guest that might have an allergy/special meal (will confirm on RSVP card) and they have all said similar things to what I've said above. They do appreciate their needs being considered, but don't consider it rude if something has x in it and therefore they cannot eat it. They just want to know before they bite into it!
How are you confirming allergies with your RSVP card? Did you put something that asks them to let you know they need a special meal? Maybe we should do that. I also thought about putting a note on the website, but I know not everyone reads them.
@OurWildKingdom sounds like you're giving everyone great options. I never realized how many people I know with food issues until I tried to feed 120 of them at the same time.
If you really want to, you can avoid any other items with known allergies or intolerances, which would be a nice gesture, but I think your responsibility stops at letting your guests with those allergies or intolerances know that you are serving food items with those ingredients and letting them deal with them as they see fit, and protecting them against cross-contamination.
We have a line on our RSVP cards that prompts guests to write in any allergies or special meals. We feel like we already know our guests, but wanted to make sure we weren't missing anything.
Edited for clarity.
The clearly marked is the key!!! And letting the catering staff know ahead of time so they're able to avoid cross contamination as much as possible.
I have ginger as an allergy - I was at a fundraiser for DD's former school, saw the punch and without thinking took a swig only to IMMEDIATELY realize what I'd just done (they'd mixed in GingerAle). My DH hasn't a CLUE when it comes to food allergies so was saying stupid crap like "just drink lots of water!" <face palm> Then the people working for the caterer were unapologetic even though State Food Code here says they're required to label everything on a buffet and have a MOD who knows ingredients for this very purpose... O.k. you know someone needs an epi-pen for an allergy - I honestly wouldn't risk the cross-contamination with that ingredient. I don't care if it's TDF wonderful tasting, if you KNOW they're that level of allergic, why risk it? Cross-contamination is the biggest issue for everyone including the guest with Celiac's. Really think about it, but if you do decide to have those foods, label EVERYTHING!
Offer a small variety, and make ingredients clear for allergy sufferers. Most of them are used to steering clear of certain foods anyways.
When we go to events, she just wants things to be labeled so she knows what not to eat. So if its too hard to completely accommodate every allergy, just make sure that those who do have the allergies can identify which foods to stay away from. Most people will be happy with that and the fact that you're including other allergy friendly options.
My friend with the dairy allergy, I explained all the meal options to her before she chose her meal, as well as the options for apps/dessert.
Fine to offer foods that someone may not be able to eat, as long as there are other options and food is labelled or explained.