Our wedding is in 2 months, my MOH and FMIL just threw me the BEST shower I could imagine. I was really surprised!
Here's my little rant: my mom and sister, who is a bridesmaid, treated my MOH and FMIL like crap. I only found out after the shower was over and heard a few friends who stuck around to help clean up and are always game for an "after party" talking about how rude my mom and sister were before I got there. I asked what they were talking about, and they filled me in on how my sister pretty much verbally ripped apart everything my MOH set up and planned for the day, and how my mom just sat with the rest of my side of the family and talked about how "sister's shower wasn't like this..." WTF.
I called my mom the next day to talk about what the problem was that they seemed to have, and she immediately started on about how the shower was at FMIL's house, not at a hall or restaurant, how MOH had a few "iffy" games that HAD to be vetoed, how sister would have done THIS, and when SHE had her shower planned it was pretty much everything sister told her MOH she expected.(I wasn't even in her wedding)
Ummm, NO, mom. My shower WAS exactly what I wanted, it fit my personality and our theme for the wedding to a T. I am not a person who enjoys being the center of attention and get very anxious in large crowds, so MOH planned the event at a familiar place where she knew I'd feel most comfortable. The games we played were super cute (Purse Raid, Forbidden Words, and Guess Who-answers provided by FI)...I did hear about one of the games that got the kabosh, and I thought it would have been hilarious, had I known about it before the shower ended, we would have definitely played!
I feel horrible for the way my mom and sister acted, and MOH is such an amazing person. She isn't worried, even with the bachelorette coming up! (yes, I know when this is happening, but I don't know what we're doing!!) I have devised a plan to keep nay-sayers quiet...the reason MOH has this position is because she truly DOES know me best, and I think it irks my sister to know we just aren't that close. I know I can't make everyone get along, I just was hoping that adults could "adult" for a little while and not be whiny brats about things that aren't even about them. *Sigh* too much to ask....