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  • kimmiinthemittenkimmiinthemitten member
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    ScottishSarah said:
    http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/fashion/fashion-trends/opinion-affordable-wedding-dresses-at-hm-and-asos-cheapen-marriage/news-story/ebe7c3cd88f00cafa122ee9efd954120  

    Just leaving this here, what a snobby horrid bitch!  
    She sounds like Gwenyth Paltrow when she tried to eat on $50 a day or whatever it was.  

    "...but I can’t help but feeling that wedding dresses that cost less than your weekly grocery bill and are manufactured in a conveyor-belt fashion in a faraway factory for even less, somewhat trivialises the significance and sanctity of a wedding."

    I spent what she probably considers an appropriate amount on my dress and my grocery bill is far less than $300 a week! 
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  • randomsloverandomslove member
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    Some of the comments are awesome, though.





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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    but her $5,000 dress was a symbol of the significance of her commitment to the man she loves!  All women should spend that on the symbol.  Otherwise, it's not true love.

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  • short+sassyshort+sassy member
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    Y'all, come on now!  I'm just so pleased at how much she loved her own wedding dress...despite the fact that it looks nothing like a wedding dress.

    Seriously though, that was absolutely just the BEST part of this article.  She's all blathering on about solemnity and magnitude of the occasion.  And it deserves better than a "cheap" dress.  And then there she is in her dress, which is about as non-traditional of a wedding dress that you can get.

    And I'm definitely not knocking non-traditional gowns.  I came very close to choosing an emerald green ball gown, myself.  I'm knocking crazy women who complain about cheap wedding gowns not being fancy and bridal enough, yet then don't even wear a traditional wedding gown themselves.

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  • ScottishSarahScottishSarah member
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    I personally think dressing like a discarded Christmas decoration looks a bit tacky.
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  • arrippaarrippa member
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    I would never pay $5,000 for a dress that looks like it was out of tin foil.




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  • OurWildKingdomOurWildKingdom member
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    Anyone else think she looks utterly bored in that photo? Like, "let's get this over with so I can get wasted on expensive champagne and write a snarky op-ed?" Or like she's looking at all the guests and just waiting till she can be alone with her burn book?

    ETA:  Here's a response:

    http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/fashion/opinion-marriage-is-about-love-and-commitment-and-not-about-how-much-you-spend-on-your-wedding-gown/news-story/f6f6d4290c2f529b095c96ad8fc56e6f?sv=65817edd16faf66008ac1545c4ffd9f8
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  • madamerwinmadamerwin member
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    Shit, I guess my wedding was not legitimate, since I only spent $500 on my dress? 

    Her dress is a $5k abomination, in my opinion. 
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  • ScottishSarahScottishSarah member
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    OurWildKingdom said:
    madamerwin said:
    Shit, I guess my wedding was not legitimate, since I only spent $500 on my dress? 

    Her dress is a $5k abomination, in my opinion. 
    Ha, I'm wearing a suit! Our wedding is screwed!
    You are so screwed babe, what about the sanctity of marriage!  
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  • drglitterdrglitter member
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    She looks bored. Or angry. Or constipated. I can't decide.
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  • scrunchythiefscrunchythief member
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    From the looks of it, she should've spent some of that 5k on chairs for their ceremony...
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  • SP29SP29 member
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    So my $550 dress counts right, cause I got it from David's Bridal? You know the ones you can order online in any size, and it only took a month to come in to the store because it's mass produced on a conveyor belt with all the other DB dresses. But my marriage is still legitimate right? *sarcasm*

    Her dress does resemble tin foil.

    She thinks it's crazy to spend "less than your grocery bill" on a dress (which bill? weekly or monthly? Pre co-habitation? 2 person or full family grocery budget?) I think it's crazy to spend thousands of dollars on a dress you'll wear once. If one has the money and that's how one wants to spend it- have at it! But no one gets to comment on how anyone else spends their money- including this chick.
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  • bleve0821bleve0821 member
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    I'm not sure, I think she may have a point.  I plan to thank my seamstress and pledge my undying love to my dress in my vows.  I'm sure FH will understand; there's just no way his devotion can compete with tulle and lace.

    Or, in her case, what looks more like it should go into making an alien deflector
    beanie.  

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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    Sadly for her, research does not support her crackpot theory.  (Shocking, I know.)

    Want a happy marriage? Have a big, cheap wedding

    Still looking for research correlating dress price with marital happiness, BRB...
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  • sparklepants41sparklepants41 member
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    Ho. Ly. Shit. What a snot. Especially coming from someone who stupidly paid $5,000 for a wedding dress that looks like it was custom made by Reynold's Wrap.
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    Heffalump said:
    Sadly for her, research does not support her crackpot theory.  (Shocking, I know.)

    Want a happy marriage? Have a big, cheap wedding

    Still looking for research correlating dress price with marital happiness, BRB...

    Just read that and it was interesting. Then I got annoyed that they say have an inexpensive wedding, and 3 sentences later tell you to invite a ton of people. That is the number one cost cutter.

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  • CharmedPamCharmedPam member
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    True.  I read another article like that before too.  But isn't money all relative? A $40,000 dollar wedding could be a massive amount to someone and a very little amount to another.  I don't think the people who can afford a $40K+ wedding should have this little dark cloud over their head because they didn't "go cheap".

    This is why you should have the wedding YOU can afford. 

    ps - I am not in the $40K+ category.  Heck, I'm not even in the $20K+ category, but it seems unfair to those who do have a more luxury wedding!


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  • ScottishSarahScottishSarah member
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    I found that quite judgy as well.  Like just because you're spending a lot on your wedding it means you care about 'it' more than the marriage.  

    Money spent on a wedding (or a dress) doesn't change a marriage.  Some things that do are getting into crushing debt as a result of it (and maybe loving your dress more than your partner).
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    Heffalump said:
    Sadly for her, research does not support her crackpot theory.  (Shocking, I know.)

    Want a happy marriage? Have a big, cheap wedding

    Still looking for research correlating dress price with marital happiness, BRB...
    That's a really interesting study, especially considering you'd think having more money to spend on a wedding would correlate with having more money in general, which slightly correlates with lower divorce rates.  

    My bet is that far too many people are taking on debt to have the super expensive weddings, which is what's raising the divorce rate.
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    scrunchythief said:
    Heffalump said:
    Sadly for her, research does not support her crackpot theory.  (Shocking, I know.)

    Want a happy marriage? Have a big, cheap wedding

    Still looking for research correlating dress price with marital happiness, BRB...
    That's a really interesting study, especially considering you'd think having more money to spend on a wedding would correlate with having more money in general, which slightly correlates with lower divorce rates.  

    My bet is that far too many people are taking on debt to have the super expensive weddings, which is what's raising the divorce rate.
    Yeah, but just because you could spend more on a wedding, doesn't mean you will spend more... H and I probably could have spent 2x as much as we did, if we wanted to, but we chose not to.

    Conversely, a lot of people have financial help from their families when planning a wedding. So hypothetically, you could have a 22 year-old couple, just out of college with $80k in student loan debt, who have a $60k wedding because their parents are paying for it. So the cost of the wedding definitely does not always correlate with how much money a couple has.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    madamerwin said:
    scrunchythief said:
    Heffalump said:
    Sadly for her, research does not support her crackpot theory.  (Shocking, I know.)

    Want a happy marriage? Have a big, cheap wedding

    Still looking for research correlating dress price with marital happiness, BRB...
    That's a really interesting study, especially considering you'd think having more money to spend on a wedding would correlate with having more money in general, which slightly correlates with lower divorce rates.  

    My bet is that far too many people are taking on debt to have the super expensive weddings, which is what's raising the divorce rate.
    Yeah, but just because you could spend more on a wedding, doesn't mean you will spend more... H and I probably could have spent 2x as much as we did, if we wanted to, but we chose not to.

    Conversely, a lot of people have financial help from their families when planning a wedding. So hypothetically, you could have a 22 year-old couple, just out of college with $80k in student loan debt, who have a $60k wedding because their parents are paying for it. So the cost of the wedding definitely does not always correlate with how much money a couple has.
    I thought that was part of what was interesting.  One of my SILs did this--FIL bankrolled SIL's entire wedding, and that marriage a) didn't cost her or her XH anything, and b) didn't last much longer than a year, unfortunately. 

    I'm curious as to whether these findings could be replicated (as far as I know, it was just that single study), and if so, what the reason is behind the correlation.  (Because I'm definitely not convinced that spending more money on the wedding ultimately caused those divorces.)  The skeptic in me has lots of questions, but at any rate, she can stuff her whole "Your H&M wedding dress cheapens the sanctity of marriage" argument.

    Anyway, I thought that's what gay marriage was for.
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  • OurWildKingdomOurWildKingdom member
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    Heffalump said:
    madamerwin said:
    scrunchythief said:
    Heffalump said:
    Sadly for her, research does not support her crackpot theory.  (Shocking, I know.)

    Want a happy marriage? Have a big, cheap wedding

    Still looking for research correlating dress price with marital happiness, BRB...
    That's a really interesting study, especially considering you'd think having more money to spend on a wedding would correlate with having more money in general, which slightly correlates with lower divorce rates.  

    My bet is that far too many people are taking on debt to have the super expensive weddings, which is what's raising the divorce rate.
    Yeah, but just because you could spend more on a wedding, doesn't mean you will spend more... H and I probably could have spent 2x as much as we did, if we wanted to, but we chose not to.

    Conversely, a lot of people have financial help from their families when planning a wedding. So hypothetically, you could have a 22 year-old couple, just out of college with $80k in student loan debt, who have a $60k wedding because their parents are paying for it. So the cost of the wedding definitely does not always correlate with how much money a couple has.
    I thought that was part of what was interesting.  One of my SILs did this--FIL bankrolled SIL's entire wedding, and that marriage a) didn't cost her or her XH anything, and b) didn't last much longer than a year, unfortunately. 

    I'm curious as to whether these findings could be replicated (as far as I know, it was just that single study), and if so, what the reason is behind the correlation.  (Because I'm definitely not convinced that spending more money on the wedding ultimately caused those divorces.)  The skeptic in me has lots of questions, but at any rate, she can stuff her whole "Your H&M wedding dress cheapens the sanctity of marriage" argument.

    Anyway, I thought that's what gay marriage was for.
    Damn it, @Heffalump, you cracked our secret agenda! :D:D:D   We're not getting married for the same reasons opposite-sex couples get married, but to subvert heterosexual marriage, including all the long, happy marriages in my family! :D:smiley: 
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