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peachy13 · April 2016

Came for the DD!

And agreeing with PPs that head tables are really awkward/rude when not done right. I've only been to 2 weddings with head tables (one of which the head table was actually on a platform at a higher level than everyone else, really enforcing the royalty/peasant feel), and both times, the head tables only included the bride, groom, and wedding party without their significant others/dates. It definitely did not go unnoticed to most.

peachy13 · April 2016

Came for the DD!

And agreeing with PPs that head tables are really awkward/rude when not done right. I've only been to 2 weddings with head tables (one of which the head table was actually on a platform at a higher level than everyone else, really enforcing the royalty/peasant feel), and both times, the head tables only included the bride, groom, and wedding party without their significant others/dates. It definitely did not go unnoticed to most.

peachy13 · April 2016

Came for the DD!

And agreeing with PPs that head tables are really awkward/rude when not done right. I've only been to 2 weddings with head tables (one of which the head table was actually on a platform at a higher level than everyone else, really enforcing the royalty/peasant feel), and both times, the head tables only included the bride, groom, and wedding party without their significant others/dates. It definitely did not go unnoticed to most.

SP29 · April 2016

Came for the DD as well!

- Have a kings table
- Have a table set up like a "T"
- Bride and Groom sit with their parents/siblings, WP sits in like-groups of friends/family
- B&G sit with best man + SO and MOH+SO, rest of WP sits together
- Have two head tables that includes SOs

So many options!!

Usually when posters come on here trying to get validation for a bad idea they often say, "but I KNOW this wouldn't bother any of my friends/family!". Well here OP, you have a situation where someone has clearly spoken up and is bothered!! Don't ignore it.

drunkenwitch · April 2016

Well, there was no back pedaling, temper tantrums or a flounce. Fell far short of a Ragret

anjemon · April 2016

The other thing about head tables that I hate, is the people on the end. I've been BM #6 in a wedding, which means I was also seated at the very end of the head table. Next to some girl I barely knew and no one else. This girl was the Bride's cousin,so she spent most of the reception off talking to all the family. So not fun for me.

And while I'm at it, the other thing I hate about head tables is how you don't really have a seat. You have to squish into tables with your friends after dinner or hover around behind the chairs. If you go back to "your seat" you'll likely be all by yourself. While I agree they look nice, head tables just aren't fun for your friends or family.

marsupalami · April 2016

My fiancé was in a wedding. I didn't get to see him till the reception when they had a head table and I had to sit alone because I knew 0 people at this wedding. I was so embarrassed.

pinupbride6189 · April 2016

I'm a little late to the game on this one, but I have to wholeheartedly agree with PPs. My sister had a head table (it was the only real table with seats at the whole reception) and FI just kind of hovered behind me while I ate dinner and he waited to be able to eat dinner (which he almost didn't get to, because they were just about out of food when he got to go through the line...). There was a married couple in the WP and they didn't even get to sit together. It was miserable.

For our wedding, we aren't doing a sweetheart or a head table. We're just sitting at a regular 8 top guest table with our siblings, MOH, BM, officiant and their dates. The rest of the WP will be seated with their SOs and friends at other tables.

MesmrEwe · April 2016

IMO - Head tables are becoming a rapid thing of the past.

tigerlily6 · April 2016

I've been a BM 6 times now, and was seated apart from my SO (Now FI) every time by being put at the head table w/o him. Know what? It was uncomfortable for me, not just him. I knew people, he didn't really. I spent the whole time basking in the glow of the newly wedded couple's love, feeling separated from my own love.

Rearrange, however necessary.

Also, totally came here for the DD.

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