I knew there were alot of things that I would have to DIY to get what I want and stay in budget. On top and work, school, and a kid I didn't want to get into a time crunch and be stressed out by setting a date until I had alot of things done. We knew it would be summer of this year, in a place that isn't considered a wedding venue. We are not having anyone in the BP, so no need for dress ordering stress. The officiant is his family, and there are no vendors. Cake and punch reception no biggie. We finally have everything done that is important and a date was set 3 weeks ago. Place reserved. Now we have family complaining it's 2 months away and we didn't let them know sooner. We told them the same day the venue was booked. Before that, we told them when school was out for my little one, and I would be done with my coursework. Sorry if people think I should tell them a date a year early then stress that I don't have things done yet, but I haven't asked a single person to do anything but be there if they are able. Selfish? Maybe, but I'm not planning things to please everyone else. Why complain to me this close about needing to find what they are going to wear? It's 2 months away, people were told colors a year ago, and "summer of 2016". Why did they need an exact day to find clothing?