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If this is how you feel 2 months in...

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Dear Prudence,
I have been dating a very sweet man for over two months. He is kind, goes out of his way to see me, is very respectful of my needs and my children, and he makes me happy. The problem is that he can’t maintain an erection. We are able to enjoy each other in other ways, which is great. He has tried pills, which help, but not enough. He’s a bit older than me, and while I care about him a lot, I am not sure I am ready to live a life without penetrative intercourse. My only other complaint about him is that he’s a shabby dresser when he’s not at work. Though I think the fashion issue says more about me and some superficial qualities that I have, the ED is a problem with a little more punch. Any advice?

—Looking for an Exit

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Re: If this is how you feel 2 months in...

  • missJeanLouisemissJeanLouise member
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    Does he make an effort to satisfy LW regardless of what his penis is doing? I would like to think I could overlook the ED as long as there was still an effort made. Sex is super important to me though and there is no way I could maintain a relationship with out it. 
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    mrs.conn23 said:

    Dear Prudence,
    I have been dating a very sweet man for over two months. He is kind, goes out of his way to see me, is very respectful of my needs and my children, and he makes me happy. The problem is that he can’t maintain an erection. We are able to enjoy each other in other ways, which is great. He has tried pills, which help, but not enough. He’s a bit older than me, and while I care about him a lot, I am not sure I am ready to live a life without penetrative intercourse. My only other complaint about him is that he’s a shabby dresser when he’s not at work. Though I think the fashion issue says more about me and some superficial qualities that I have, the ED is a problem with a little more punch. Any advice?

    —Looking for an Exit

    Two months!  I feel like after two months, you don't need to talk yourself into staying with someone, no matter the reason.


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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
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    edited May 2016
    She's already looking for an "out" if she's signing it "Looking for an exit" - don't prolong things "It's not you, it's me..." Don't lead the guy along...  There's more to it that are "Deal breakers" than just this...
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  • glasgowtolondonglasgowtolondon member
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    Yeah, I'm really not into 'making it work' unless it's an invested relationship going through a hard time. It's not this guys fault, but if she's so bothered about it at 2months it's not going to get better so she should end it for both their sakes. The exit is not so hard to find that you need to write to Prudie. At 2months a simple 'this isn't working for me, good luck to you' would suffice.
                 
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