I am very self-sufficient. If I need or want something for the wedding, I go searching for it and just buy it myself. My Mom is very laid back and does things at her own pace. Which is fine. So far the stuff she has done for the wedding is make phone calls about some venue issues we had, and she keeps track of everything we talk about in her book. Problem is my Mom feels like she isn't involved. I am the last daughter to get married and when my sisters got married, the internet had not blown up yet. My Mom doesn't even have an email. With both my sisters they spent endless weekends going from store to store to find their decorations and supplies. A lot of what I have, I got off of ebay, or etsy. So Mom hasn't been very involved in that decorations area. I think a big issue for her is that I am housing everything (But my dress, she has that) in my basement. I live less than a mile from our venue and she is 40 minutes away. So to us it was more logical. Invitations will be prepared here soon and my Mom told me a few months ago she wants the reply cards sent to her. I am doing a seating chart (both my sisters didn't) my Mom is 200% against doing one. She thinks they are too much work. I told her it was fine, she only knows a quarter of the people there. If anyone would be doing the work on the seating chart it is my and my FH. My FH found some labels that had her name and address on them and asked me about it. I told him my Mom wanted to receive the reply cards. He thinks we should just have them sent to us since we are doing the seating chart. I am trying to not look like a control freak and give my mom some more duties. Has anyone sent your reply cards to a different address than who was doing the seating chart?