Can I just pout here for a minute?
I'm getting married in November and my youngest brother was supposed to be a "brides-man" and spend the day with us. Of my siblings he's the one I'm closest to and he an my fiancé have become fast friends despite a 15 year age difference. He recently decided to enlist in the Marines and leaves for boot camp in July. I'm so proud of the kid, and know this is exactly what he wants.
But this means he'll miss the wedding. He offered to try to work with the recruiter to see if he can postpone when he leaves to be able to attend the wedding (we're a pretty tight knit family and he is also really bummed he won't be able to attend). I told him that overall for just one day it's a pretty stupid reason to put his life on hold and have encouraged him to keep his original date to leave.
But I'm bummed. I'm bummed he won't be able to attend, to give me a big bear hug of encouragement before the ceremony starts and save a dance for me. In the end I'm just sad about it. But I can't say anything to him, or anyone who might let it slip to him that I'm sad. If he knew, he would do everything in his power to push back the date he leaves, and as much as I want him there, postponing his career and future for a wedding is just plain dumb. So I just need somewhere to voice that I think the situation sucks.
While it's not the same I know we'll be able to Skype that day (he'll be done with boot camp and at the next phase where we'll be able to Skype) which is something we'll have to get used to for the next 4 years anyway. In the end I know it'll be okay, I'll get to chat with my brother and while he'll be missed greatly I'll be so busy getting married to the love of my life, that we wouldn't have had a lot of time together anyway. Thanks for hearing me out and letting me pout, I'm going to enjoy a glass of wine now.