I'm sure this question has been asked and answered hundreds of times before but in my digging I couldn't find a thread about it.
We are having a small wedding that will just be family and close friends. In our world small is about 90 people because both my fiance and I have such big families!
We will be inviting the significant others of those of our friends and family members that are in relationships, however I am not comfortable giving plus ones to our single friends. This is because we want our wedding to be intimate and not full of random people we don't really know that are friends just brought because the invitation said they could, but moreso because we really can't afford to feed and host all these extra people.
For the most part, our friends seem to understand this. My fiance is not very close with his family (we have been dating for six years and there are some family members of his that I have never met or only met once or twice) and he just wants to invite them out of premise. He doesn't want to invite them because he wants them there, he's doing it to avoid family wars. I'm okay with this I guess, it's his decision. However, some of his cousins have girlfriends that they have been with for under a year at this time. Cousins that have either never or barely ever met; girlfriends who I definitely have never met and whose names I don't even know. Also, not that it necessarily matters, but these cousins are around high school age...
What does proper etiquette dictate in this situation? Better yet, what is your real life experience and opinion on it? Should we be extending plus ones/ invites to these people?