How should you go about choosing guests to suggest to the host of a bridal shower if you're in the middle about whether another shower will also be thrown?
Two years ago, my aunt decided to throw a couples' shower for my sister and absolutely loved doing it. After it ended, she said, "I can't wait to throw you a shower too!" For the record, at the time she knew my FI was very likely going to be the man I would marry.
My MOH just said she would like to throw me a bridal shower for the third week of July, and she would like a guest list for it as soon as possible. My aunt has not mentioned a shower thusfar, but she is excited for the wedding and has offered to help with whatever I need. I feel like there's still time for her to bring it up, particularly since my MOH only just has, and my aunt has been swamped with things for work for the past few weeks.
I only have about 20-25 guests I would invite to a bridal shower, most of who are my relatives as well as my aunt's. I have heard that you definitely should not invite any guest to two showers. I'm a little torn on what to do about guest list(s). I don't want to leave people out, thinking there might be a second shower, and then miss inviting them to any shower event. I also don't want to offend them, if it would, by inviting them to two showers. My aunt was (or is) so looking forward to throwing one and she told me directly, while my MOH just decided to. I don't really want to tell my aunt she can't after all because, something along the lines of: "there aren't enough guests to go around, and my MOH beat you to it" - when she really didn't.
I did just have a thought: do you think those who I have any concerns about wouldn't mind potentially receiving an invitation to two showers if, since one would be a couples' shower, their SO would be invited and could come along to one of them, so they have options and could still only go to one? Otherwise, the way I could think to split it would be inviting only 11 and 14 guests to each who might come, and I think the parties involved might be disappointed by the limited selection of guests. And again, I don't want to not invite some guests to my MOH's with the assumption that they could go to another one, and then there isn't another.