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ScottishSarah · June 2016

lols

http://projectpriceless.blogspot.co.uk/p/about-pp.html

http://projectpriceless.blogspot.co.uk/search/label/Objections?

glasgowtolondon · June 2016

"And of course, talk of a book is in the air."

Of course it is! I love the insinuation that this wedding was put on for free - just because you didn't spend money on it doesn't mean the wedding was free. Oh yeah, and anyone who disagrees is a hater!

OurWildKingdom · June 2016

If they were just trying to spend as little as possible by using what they already had and freecycling or bartering as much of the rest as possible, or if friends and family offered to provide them with items that they're not using without being asked (e.g., a relative offers a vintage suit or dress), that would be one thing. But the way this couple went about it is extremely rude. And the "Why Contribute" section smacks of entitlement.

ScottishSarah · June 2016

And cash donations are accepted! How fabulous!

bleve0821 · June 2016

"We think that gathering and celebrating your spiritual and cultural traditions is actually, really, a right. I'm pretty sure what you're really asking is, how dare you feel righteous enough to expect a wedding beyond your pocketbook's means. There's no way to argue this reasonably . Suffice it to say, that's highly elitist and ridiculous."

Oh my god, AYFKM? I think my jaw actually hit the floor.

ScottishSarah · June 2016

Because things like wedding tattoos, designer florals, bridesmaids necklaces, engagement photoshoots, macaron favours, cake toppers, table clothes in white or pale colours (little flowers are fine!) a vintage leather jacket, a videographer, matching apple green bridal party outfits etc etc...

...are all ESSENTIAL to celebrating your spiritual and cultural traditions!

....and a piggy bank you shake to get the B&G to kiss, all proceeds used to pay the church fees, AYFKM!

ScottishSarah · June 2016

OMG just seen they are reccomending donators to stop by Home Deport to pick up paint samples as "everyone's computer screen shows colour differently."

Just imagine the disappointment if the free stuff wasn't in the exact shade of Orange Peel S_G-290.

Sorry, this thread should really be in snarky brides. Please check out the 'Wishlist' blog posts, I can't stop LMAO

bleve0821 · June 2016

Did you see that they were engaged for all of four days beforoe creating this nonsense?

ETA: This is a trainwreck I just can't look away from.

ScottishSarah · June 2016

Why wait, it's not like they have to save up any money first.

I so wished I could have crashed this potluck reception monstrosity!

Heffalump · June 2016

So spending only what you can afford is now "highly elitist and ridiculous," and asking other people to pay for luxury items is no longer entitled, it's a human right? Because they specifically say:

City Hall is not, for us, a wedding. City Hall is a piece of paper that says the government acknowledges your relationship and will tax you accordingly. This is a license; it is a registration. It is not a wedding. A wedding is a gathering of family and friends to celebrate the promises made between two people. A civil ceremony is not the same thing, to us. Our familial and spiritual traditions call for a gathering, and we are having one.

So they're not arguing for the right to be married, as so many people have (interracial couples, same sex couples), they're arguing that they deserve a big party, because a legally binding courthouse wedding isn't good enough for them?

I use this sparingly, but right now, I swear to god, I can't even.

SaintPaulGal · June 2016

You are all so mean. They have a right to a fancy wedding because throwing a massive fucking party is spiritual for them.

Also, don't you know that all vendors are desperate to be mentioned on their oh-so-important blogspot page? And besides, giving away your professional labors or products is just so fun!

ScottishSarah · June 2016

When I read her wishlist for flowers, venue etc I actually felt physically sick.

"I think birds of paradise, white lilies (or calla lilies), and some big flat-leafed greens would be awesome. I’d like a long bouquet instead of the usual round bundle. And that’s really all we need in terms of flowers; any more is just bonus!"

thisismynickname2 · June 2016

I think the only saving grace to this was that they offered to barter/trade in return if they could. I notice this was in 2010, which was a pretty bad year in terms of global economy. Surely right now, or in the early 2000's, few artisans were desperate to be named in a blog, but I could understand maybe a smidge more willingness in the time this was done.

But, overall, I'm rubbed the wrong way with the "this is a grand social experiment!" attitude. No it's not. You're cheap and poor in a bad economy.
Because you know what? If this was an experiment for a wedding only, they wouldn't have taken the excess cash to go on a fucking honeymoon. Greedy McGreedersons.

ScottishSarah · June 2016

"By about eleven o’clock (remember, it was a Monday night), most people had headed home and teardown began in earnest. Brian and I found ourselves trying to help but mostly being useless as our heads were still quite empty and we didn’t know the plan. Eventually we gave up and let the many, many volunteers do their work, while we danced with our wedding party some more."

SaintPaulGal · June 2016

So mean @thisismynickname! Don't call them Greedy McGreedersons. She once made a gown out of a tarp because homelessness! That makes her the very picture of gracious kindness! If you were homeless, wouldn't you rather have a gown made out of a tarp instead of a much-less-fierce actual tarp to protect yourself and your belongings from the elements?

ScottishSarah · June 2016

"even when careful instruction had been given to the maker, had been made in shades of our theme colours that were definitely not what we’d asked for. People in particular had a very hard time grasping the difference between ‘apple’ green, and ‘lime’ green. But no matter!"

Defiantly. Not. Entitled.

thisismynickname2 · June 2016

SaintPaulGal said:

So mean @thisismynickname! Don't call them Greedy McGreedersons. She once made a gown out of a tarp because homelessness! That makes her the very picture of gracious kindness! If you were homeless, wouldn't you rather have a gown made out of a tarp instead of a much-less-fierce actual tarp to protect yourself and your belongings from the elements?

Hahahah I didn't get too far into their blogs so I totally missed this one. Yup, they're so philanthropic though, based on what I did read. Especially as she works in social services. Such a saint!

aurianna · June 2016

I stopped after the first post. my skin is crawling.

OurWildKingdom · June 2016

Heffalump said:

So spending only what you can afford is now "highly elitist and ridiculous," and asking other people to pay for luxury items is no longer entitled, it's a human right? Because they specifically say:

City Hall is not, for us, a wedding. City Hall is a piece of paper that says the government acknowledges your relationship and will tax you accordingly. This is a license; it is a registration. It is not a wedding. A wedding is a gathering of family and friends to celebrate the promises made between two people. A civil ceremony is not the same thing, to us. Our familial and spiritual traditions call for a gathering, and we are having one.

So they're not arguing for the right to be married, as so many people have (interracial couples, same sex couples), they're arguing that they deserve a big party, because a legally binding courthouse wedding isn't good enough for them?

I use this sparingly, but right now, I swear to god, I can't even.

I know, right? If these people were in front of me, I'd say, "Bitches, please."

kylexo · June 2016

if you look through the various iterations that her blogs have had, you'll see that they are now divorced...

lovesclimbing · June 2016

Heffalump said:

So spending only what you can afford is now "highly elitist and ridiculous," and asking other people to pay for luxury items is no longer entitled, it's a human right? Because they specifically say:

City Hall is not, for us, a wedding. City Hall is a piece of paper that says the government acknowledges your relationship and will tax you accordingly. This is a license; it is a registration. It is not a wedding. A wedding is a gathering of family and friends to celebrate the promises made between two people. A civil ceremony is not the same thing, to us. Our familial and spiritual traditions call for a gathering, and we are having one.

So they're not arguing for the right to be married, as so many people have (interracial couples, same sex couples), they're arguing that they deserve a big party, because a legally binding courthouse wedding isn't good enough for them?

I use this sparingly, but right now, I swear to god, I can't even.

And this mentality is why we have such a problem with debt in this country.

glasgowtolondon · June 2016

kylexo said:

if you look through the various iterations that her blogs have had, you'll see that they are now divorced...

That's a shame. Mainly because they deserve each other.

aurianna · June 2016

Where's the blog asking for donations for the tattoo removal?

thisismynickname2 · June 2016

glasgowtolondon said:

kylexo said:

if you look through the various iterations that her blogs have had, you'll see that they are now divorced...

That's a shame. Mainly because they deserve each other.

Did she crowd-source her lawyer fees?

InLoveInQueens · June 2016

Heffalump said:
City Hall is not, for us, a wedding. City Hall is a piece of paper that says the government acknowledges your relationship and will tax you accordingly. This is a license; it is a registration. It is not a wedding. A wedding is a gathering of family and friends to celebrate the promises made between two people. A civil ceremony is not the same thing, to us. Our familial and spiritual traditions call for a gathering, and we are having one.

SITB

Is it pathetic to say that this hurt me and while I didn't I could see myself crying reading this, depending on how PMS-y I am? Like, I see this sentiment pop up constantly, people talking about how it's just a piece of paper and getting married at City Hall isn't a "real" wedding so why shouldn't they keep it a secret and put on a pageant in front of their friends and family later or beg their friends and family for $$ to avoid stooping so low as to have to get married at City Hall. I am tired of having to explain to people that their justifying their PPD by making sure we all know it's "just a piece of paper" and "not a ~real~ wedding" only makes me feel shitty about my City Hall wedding and how my husband and I are still married and we still had a "real" wedding despite only have ~9 guests and a photographer be there. Obviously they're saying it for a slightly different reason than most people, but still. It's the same over and over again and it is exhausting.

These people are disgusting and they make me sad at the same time. I don't even feel bad that I'm happy they're divorced now because fuck anyone who has to justify their wedding by talking about how terrible and not real someone else's is. They always throw in that bullshit "for me/us" line but it's the same shit different day, if it's for you then you think that about me.

Sorry for the rant, I'm just fill of feelings and not full of chocolate :P

MCmeow · June 2016

Is it Christmas already? This is gold!

monkeysip · June 2016

I like the idea of a "freegan" spirit wedding, meaning that you reuse whatever you can, simplify, or even dumpster dive if you can. Make your wedding dress out of plastic grocery bags and DIY modern looking centerpieces out of spray painted toilet paper cardboard for all I care. Being eco-friendly and thrifty is great.

But at the end of the day, there's certain things you'd have to pay for (like food for your guests), and you don't have a right to ask other people for it. YOU are the hosts. YOU are supposed to be taking care of them. It's YOUR gift to them for coming to the wedding. Either just pay for it or don't invite any guests. You don't have a right to these things!

kimmiinthemitten · June 2016

InLoveInQueens said:

Heffalump said:
City Hall is not, for us, a wedding. City Hall is a piece of paper that says the government acknowledges your relationship and will tax you accordingly. This is a license; it is a registration. It is not a wedding. A wedding is a gathering of family and friends to celebrate the promises made between two people. A civil ceremony is not the same thing, to us. Our familial and spiritual traditions call for a gathering, and we are having one.

SITB

Is it pathetic to say that this hurt me and while I didn't I could see myself crying reading this, depending on how PMS-y I am? Like, I see this sentiment pop up constantly, people talking about how it's just a piece of paper and getting married at City Hall isn't a "real" wedding so why shouldn't they keep it a secret and put on a pageant in front of their friends and family later or beg their friends and family for $$ to avoid stooping so low as to have to get married at City Hall. I am tired of having to explain to people that their justifying their PPD by making sure we all know it's "just a piece of paper" and "not a ~real~ wedding" only makes me feel shitty about my City Hall wedding and how my husband and I are still married and we still had a "real" wedding despite only have ~9 guests and a photographer be there. Obviously they're saying it for a slightly different reason than most people, but still. It's the same over and over again and it is exhausting.

These people are disgusting and they make me sad at the same time. I don't even feel bad that I'm happy they're divorced now because fuck anyone who has to justify their wedding by talking about how terrible and not real someone else's is. They always throw in that bullshit "for me/us" line but it's the same shit different day, if it's for you then you think that about me.

Sorry for the rant, I'm just fill of feelings and not full of chocolate :P

I'm pretty sure this bitch figured out real fast that she too walked away with a taxable piece of paper

My friends and I used to joke that when looking for a partner, you didn't check out their baggage, you checked out their briefcase (marriage license, divorce decree, birth certificates, arrest warrants etc). This chick may have been all high and mighty about what a "real wedding" is, but she now owns one additional piece of paper you don't. Remember that when someone else thinks that trappings make a marriage.

bleve0821 · June 2016

kimmiinthemitten said:

InLoveInQueens said:

Heffalump said:
City Hall is not, for us, a wedding. City Hall is a piece of paper that says the government acknowledges your relationship and will tax you accordingly. This is a license; it is a registration. It is not a wedding. A wedding is a gathering of family and friends to celebrate the promises made between two people. A civil ceremony is not the same thing, to us. Our familial and spiritual traditions call for a gathering, and we are having one.

SITB

Is it pathetic to say that this hurt me and while I didn't I could see myself crying reading this, depending on how PMS-y I am? Like, I see this sentiment pop up constantly, people talking about how it's just a piece of paper and getting married at City Hall isn't a "real" wedding so why shouldn't they keep it a secret and put on a pageant in front of their friends and family later or beg their friends and family for $$ to avoid stooping so low as to have to get married at City Hall. I am tired of having to explain to people that their justifying their PPD by making sure we all know it's "just a piece of paper" and "not a ~real~ wedding" only makes me feel shitty about my City Hall wedding and how my husband and I are still married and we still had a "real" wedding despite only have ~9 guests and a photographer be there. Obviously they're saying it for a slightly different reason than most people, but still. It's the same over and over again and it is exhausting.

These people are disgusting and they make me sad at the same time. I don't even feel bad that I'm happy they're divorced now because fuck anyone who has to justify their wedding by talking about how terrible and not real someone else's is. They always throw in that bullshit "for me/us" line but it's the same shit different day, if it's for you then you think that about me.

Sorry for the rant, I'm just fill of feelings and not full of chocolate :P

I'm pretty sure this bitch figured out real fast that she too walked away with a taxable piece of paper

My friends and I used to joke that when looking for a partner, you didn't check out their baggage, you checked out their briefcase (marriage license, divorce decree, birth certificates, arrest warrants etc). This chick may have been all high and mighty about what a "real wedding" is, but she now owns one additional piece of paper you don't. Remember that when someone else thinks that trappings make a marriage.

It's not, and it never should be, about the how part of a marriage. Having a bank-breaking affair makes a marriage no less valid or invalid than going to City Hall. It disgusts me how people are so quick to lose sight of that when getting married, how quick they are to dismiss a City Hall wedding, elopement, whatever because it wasn't a party. Or, more importantly, I guess, because that's not in line with what has come to be a standard, the norm, so therefore anything less is automaticallyrendered invalid, inconsequential, inferior.

A marriage isn't about a wedding. It isn't about a party. It isn't even about the piece of paper. It's about joining your life with another's, and everything that that entails.

It's the who and the why, and the remembering of both of those things that makes a marriage strong.

A piece of paper makes it legal, and whether you spend $35 or $35,000, the end result is the same. You get that piece of paper. Hopefully, you also come away with a lifetime with the Who who gave you the Why that made you want it in the first place.

People like this are disgusting.

madamerwin · June 2016

kylexo said:

if you look through the various iterations that her blogs have had, you'll see that they are now divorced...

Oh man, it took me a while to follow this trail, but it looks like they lasted about two years. And now she is married again.

MCmeow · June 2016

madamerwin said:

kylexo said:

if you look through the various iterations that her blogs have had, you'll see that they are now divorced...

Oh man, it took me a while to follow this trail, but it looks like they lasted about two years. And now she is married again.

I wonder what her experiment was for the second wedding

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