My FI's brother is a paranoid schizophrenic, which is something I've never had to deal with before. He has been in and out of the hospital through out his life, and was recently released from another one. The only problem is, he is still hearing voices. Talking out loud to them, and having hallucinations. I did a lot of looking into his diagnosis, asking my therapist questions, as well as asking my FI questions. Eventually he is going to be my brother in law, so I wanted to know as much about it as possible.
I seem to be a trigger of his though. One day he is fine around me, and the next he is convinced I am stealing his brother from him. From his past history he has never been physically violent, however he is huge compared to me and when he gets agitated he flails around. Which happens to be a trigger of mine, due to previous spousal abuse.
Sorry I am rambling, I've had no sleep and he decided to pay a visit early this morning after my FI went to work. When he showed up I tried asking nicely for him to leave. I needed sleep, and was honestly not in the mental frame of mind to deal with him. Well he refused to go, and to add to an already brewing mess - his grandmother called to try and warn me he was on his way. When I left the room to speak with her, I let her know he was already here and wouldn't leave.
At that point she sent her husband over, and told me to tell FI's brother that he was being picked up. Did I mention he walked five miles just to get to my place? Anyway, I relaid the message and he got agitated. Spouting off that I was part of the conspiracy and not to be trusted. I said if he didn't trust me, why was he still here. He just rolled his eyes and started muttering to himself.
I should mention my twelve year old daughter was home, and had locked herself in her room the minute he barged into the house. Anyway, grandpa arrived and told him he needed to leave. He refused, so grandpa told him that he was staying until he decided to leave. 45 minutes later when FI's brother realized he wasn't going to win, he finally left.
FI called about twenty minutes later to check in with me and I told him what went on, which only stressed him out because his parents (who his brother has to legally live with,) are pretty much refusing to do anything unless FI is there as well. They seem to forget that we have our own life, our own child, and it isn't our responsibility to handle FBIL when he is having issues. Aside from that, all legal action has to be taken by their parents.
So now I can't sleep, my daughter made me lock all doors and windows and we are waiting on my FI to get home. This ended up longer than I thought it would, and forgive me please if I posted in the wrong board. I am truly exhausted.