I'm getting married in October and am running into a problem. Neither FI or I are religious, but our families are. My parents (who are paying for the wedding) are pushing for me to ask my grandfather to be my officiant. I would be fine with it, but he is a borderline fire and brimstone Southern Baptist preacher. We don't want a religious ceremony, but I feel like if I have him do it we will be forced and guilted into it.
They are pulling very hard guilt tips on me, and I know that if he isn't asked to officiate and I find someone "random" on the internet there will be A LOT of hurt feelings. I even mentioned in passing having a friend do it and I got a death glare from my mom. I've tried bringing up that I'm not exactly comfortable with him doing it, but they just don't understand. It doesn't help that they don't know we aren't religious (they just think we don't go to church). And if I told them, it would quite possibly result in a disowning.
My parents have been so great about everything else, it's just this one thing. Any advice?