Inappropriate?

Re: Inappropriate?

• kaos16 member

  

  July 2016

  I had to do a double take when I saw the photo. . . . I thought the nude color was her skin! With that being said, she looks great in the dress and should wear what she feels comfortable in. I would not personally wear a dress that small to a wedding, but that's just not the level of skin baring I'm comfortable with for a wedding.

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  July 2016

  I think what people did to her was atrocious and they should be ashamed of themselves. I'm pretty sure no one thought she was naked. 

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• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  July 2016

  kaos16 said:

  I had to do a double take when I saw the photo. . . . I thought the nude color was her skin! With that being said, she looks great in the dress and should wear what she feels comfortable in. I would not personally wear a dress that small to a wedding, but that's just not the level of skin baring I'm comfortable with for a wedding.

  Her body is banging!! I'd dress like that all the time if I looked like that. My only issue is the color. 

  

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• thisismynickname2 member

  

  July 2016

  Ooo, was it 90 degrees and an outdoor wedding? Why didn't that bride have a Plan B???
  
  That dress is more "date night with the husband" than wedding appropriate, in my conservative opinion. I could see more people wearing that type of outfit without side-eye in say, Vegas or Miami. 
  
  Nothing excuses her getting her ass slapped and shamed for it though. 

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• bleve0821 member

  

  July 2016

  I may be in the minority, but I did not think she looked naked by any stretch of the imagination. She looks great in the dress, and anyone who gave her shit should be ashamed. Touching her without her permission is appalling, regardless of who she is or what she wore.
  
  Individuals should never be considered "targets" for anything or for any reason, not the least of which is because of the way they dress.
  
  I wouldn't say it's wedding inappropriate, but I'll never wear a dress like that to a wedding because I'll never pull it off like she does.

  
  

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• emmaaa mod

  

  July 2016

  Obviously she looks amazing and is in terrific shape. I also agree that no one should have put their hands on her or treated her in that manner.
  
  However, I would side-eye this dress if I saw someone wearing at a wedding, despite the color. It is very tight and short. She mentioned that she chose this for a 90 degree day. Never in my life has a skin tight dress on a hot day been more comfortable than a flowy sundress. I, personally, think it is a little inappropriate and wouldn't wear something like that to a wedding myself.
  
  although, she is not overly exposed because the dress fits her correctly and she looks hott in it. I just don't think it is wedding appropriate.

  
  

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  July 2016

  AtomicBlonde said:

  I may be in the minority, but I did not think she looked naked by any stretch of the imagination. She looks great in the dress, and anyone who gave her shit should be ashamed. Touching her without her permission is appalling, regardless of who she is or what she wore.
  Individuals should never be considered "targets" for anything or for any reason, not the least of which is because of the way they dress.
  
  I wouldn't say it's wedding inappropriate, but I'll never wear a dress like that to a wedding because I'll never pull it off like she does.

  I agree with all of this. 

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• ILoveBeachMusic member

  

  July 2016

  I think it is a dress for going out not an appropriate dress for a wedding. Yes it fits her and she is in great shape. I wouldn't wear a dress like that even if I had her body - I'm just too modest.

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• climbingsingle member

  

  July 2016

  There's nothing wrong with that dress. It's not inappropriate. It sounds like she was physically assaulted. 
  
  
  
  DrillSergeantCat said:

  I saw this article today and it made me wonder how y'all feel about her dress. I definitely think the guests were out of line by putting their hands on her, but I also feel like the dress is borderline inappropriate. To me, she looks naked and had the dress been a color other than nude, she'd have looked perfectly acceptable. 
  
  What do y'all think about her attire?
  
  http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/beauty/face-body/body-shamed-at-a-wedding-liz-krueger-responds-with-inspiring-message/news-story/65bc51a2aaaa2cba4936c0042edceaa8
  

  
  Fucking no. Stop right there. If she was raped, would you be saying the same thing? "Well, it's wrong that she was raped, but look at her dress!"
   

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• ThisShamanluvsaMage member

  

  July 2016

  climbingwife said:

  There's nothing wrong with that dress. It's not inappropriate. It sounds like she was physically assaulted. 
  
  
  
  DrillSergeantCat said:

  I saw this article today and it made me wonder how y'all feel about her dress. I definitely think the guests were out of line by putting their hands on her, but I also feel like the dress is borderline inappropriate. To me, she looks naked and had the dress been a color other than nude, she'd have looked perfectly acceptable. 
  
  What do y'all think about her attire?
  
  http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/beauty/face-body/body-shamed-at-a-wedding-liz-krueger-responds-with-inspiring-message/news-story/65bc51a2aaaa2cba4936c0042edceaa8
  

  
  Fucking no. Stop right there. If she was raped, would you be saying the same thing? "Well, it's wrong that she was raped, but look at her dress!"
   

  I remember @Drillsergeantcat from the bump, and she never was the "being raped was your fault." I think the bolded above was just poor sentence structure.  I too find the dress inappropriate for a wedding, and I think the guests were out of line.  They are 2 unrelated thoughts.

                         

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• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  July 2016

  ThisShamanluvsaMage said:

  I remember @Drillsergeantcat from the bump, and she never was the "being raped was your fault." I think the bolded above was just poor sentence structure.  I too find the dress inappropriate for a wedding, and I think the guests were out of line.  They are 2 unrelated thoughts.

  Yes, they were two separate thoughts. The guests were out of line by putting their hands on her. I also feel like the dress was inappropriate. I'm of the school of thinking that even if you are naked, no one has the right to touch your body in a way you do not want. 

  

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• scrunchythief member

  

  July 2016

  I'm pretty sure it's much more inappropriate to sexually assault someone at a wedding.  And I've had similar assaults happen in a loose fitting t-shirt and sweatpants.  The clothes didn't cause this.

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• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  July 2016

  scrunchythief said:

  I'm pretty sure it's much more inappropriate to sexually assault someone at a wedding.  And I've had similar assaults happen in a loose fitting t-shirt and sweatpants.  The clothes didn't cause this.

  You're right. Assholes caused this. 

  

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• climbingsingle member

  

  July 2016

  DrillSergeantCat said:

  ThisShamanluvsaMage said:

  I remember @Drillsergeantcat from the bump, and she never was the "being raped was your fault." I think the bolded above was just poor sentence structure.  I too find the dress inappropriate for a wedding, and I think the guests were out of line.  They are 2 unrelated thoughts.

  Yes, they were two separate thoughts. The guests were out of line by putting their hands on her. I also feel like the dress was inappropriate. I'm of the school of thinking that even if you are naked, no one has the right to touch your body in a way you do not want. 

  Why is the dress inappropriate? 
  
  Your wording in your OP clearly comes off as victim blaming. 

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• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  July 2016

  climbingwife said:

  Why is the dress inappropriate? 
  
  Your wording in your OP clearly comes off as victim blaming. 

  That wasn't my intention as I clearly stated the guests were wrong for putting their hands on her. To me, the nude color of the dress makes it appear that she's naked. Someone else said they had to do a double take because they thought she was naked. I got sent home from school on Halloween for wearing something similar because they thought I was naked (I realize I'm comparing a child to an adult, but it's similar dress). If that dress were literally any other color other than that close to her skin tone, I'd have zero problem with it.

  

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• vikinganna87 member

  

  July 2016

  I think what happened at the wedding is more reflective of the guests, their mores and their level of intoxication than anything else.  The other women acted like buffoons and there's no excuse for that.  It's disgusting in any setting and a horrible example of jealousy, insecurity and fiercely tribal group shaming at work.
  
  From a fashion perspective I'm not a huge fan of the dress in combination with those heels, though she can totally pull it off because she's incredibly fit.  How I personally feel about the dress is beside the point.  
  
  In my opinion it's not a faux pas, just something that stands out as non-traditional wedding wear, at least in my culture.  I'd probably view her outfit [in person] the same way I would someone wearing a beautiful dressy-dress with Tevas or Merrells or a guy wearing, for example, a button down with board shorts.  But I have no idea what's typical at a wedding in NSW [if that's even where the wedding took place] in 2016.
  

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  July 2016

  Can people seriosuly not tell the difference between a naked body and a dress?! 

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• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  July 2016

  charlotte989875 said:

  Can people seriosuly not tell the difference between a naked body and a dress?! 

  Apparently it takes a couple looks for some of us. 

  

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• CharmedPam member

  

  July 2016

  If someone wants to wear that to my wedding, go ahead.  

  
  

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• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  July 2016

  CharmedPam said:

  If someone wants to wear that to my wedding, go ahead.  

  Honestly, if someone wore that to my wedding I'd not be upset by it. I would hope that she let me know that people were slapping her ass and spilling beer on her and I'd throw them out. 

  

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• CharmedPam member

  

  July 2016

  exactly.  The behavior of the people is the point of the article.  Yes, adults can be bullies too.

  
  

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• climbingsingle member

  

  July 2016

  I don't see how she looks naked. It's clearly a dress. No parts of it make her look naked. 

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• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  July 2016

  Okay, not naked, it's obviously a dress. I mean see-through. I don't always express myself well (obviously). To me it looks like maybe a mesh dress with strategic placement of opaque fabric.

  

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• thisismynickname2 member

  

  July 2016

  DrillSergeantCat said:

  Okay, not naked, it's obviously a dress. I mean see-through. I don't always express myself well (obviously). To me it looks like maybe a mesh dress with strategic placement of opaque fabric.

  Oh, you know, I didn't perceive that before. I originally perceived just a multi-colored bandage dress, never thought she looked nearly naked.
  
  My comment about it being not very appropriate for a wedding is more about the fact that it's skin tight and barely covers her butt and barely covers her breasts. I subscribe to the fashion guidance of choosing no more than 2 of 3 assets to flaunt at a time (boobs butt legs) but again, I am fairly conservative.

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  July 2016

  I'm laughing at the fact that these guests actually thought she wore this dress to upstage the bride.
  
  Really?     Do men wearing tuxes, wear them to upstage the groom?    
  
  I hate this double standard.  I also hate the people [sadly, mostly women] actually believe other women are trying to upstage them/others.   Sure there are those who seek out attention, we all know who they are.  However, the vast majority of people just do not dress to upstage others. 
  
  News flash, not every action has an ulterior motive attached.  She liked the dress, she wore it.  NBD.
  
  Now the dress.   NMS, looks more like a dress you wear to a club, but not inappropriate.   Might standout in certain social groups, but that is a far cry from being inappropriate and deserving being bullied over.
  
   The guests should be ashamed of themselves for shaming her. 
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• MissKittyDanger member

  

  July 2016

  lyndausvi said:

  I'm laughing at the fact that these guests actually thought she wore this dress to upstage the bride.
  
  Really?     Do men wearing tuxes, wear them to upstage the groom?    
  
  I hate this double standard.  I also hate the people [sadly, mostly women] actually believe other women are trying to upstage them/others.   Sure there are those who seek out attention, we all know who they are.  However, the vast majority of people just do not dress to upstage others. 
  
  News flash, not every action has an ulterior motive attached.  She liked the dress, she wore it.  NBD.
  
  Now the dress.   NMS, looks more like a dress you wear to a club, but not inappropriate.   Might standout in certain social groups, but that is a far cry from being inappropriate and deserving being bullied over.
  
   The guests should be ashamed of themselves for shaming her. 
  

  Bolded was my thoughts exactly.
  
  Also, even if it was inappropriate it's not the guests job to do anything.

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• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  July 2016

  MissKittyDanger said:

  Bolded was my thoughts exactly.
  
  Also, even if it was inappropriate it's not the guests job to do anything.

  I'm sure it was jealousy. 

  

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• ei34 member

  

  July 2016

  The only inappropriate thing in that post is the other guests' behavior.
  

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• themosthappy91 member

  

  July 2016 edited July 2016

  I read the thread before looking at the article and I was expecting the dress to be way worse- she doesn't look naked at all. It's short and tight, yeah, so I guess if that's your definition of inappropriate for a wedding I can see saying it's inappropriate... but personally I don't see anything wrong with it. Not that it matters what I (or anyone) thinks, obviously she shouldn't have been assaulted.
  

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• badbnagdway member

  

  July 2016

  The other guests were inappropriate. Even if this girl came nude to the wedding no one should have laid a hand on her and they should have kept the comments to themselves. 
  
  Places where the shortness, color or tightness of a dress dictates its appropriateness (at least to me): school, church, and work. Any outfit is inappropriate if it is showing your goods (ie, nips if you're a woman, and ass/privates for either gender) to the general public. Otherwise everything is just a matter of taste. So in short, to me, if this was an outdoor (not in a church) wedding then I don't think appropriate/inappropriate comes into play so long as the dress didn't ride up, or slip down, to expose her goods.
  
  I was at a wedding once where the bride's boobs were really pushed up and on display in her dress and during the father-daughter dance the bride had a nip slip. I would deem the functionality of that wedding dress inappropriate in retrospect because it was extremely prone to wardrobe malfunction. 

  
  

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