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Processional order?

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My wedding venue coordinator  has asked me for a rough outline of our processional order for the ceremony. My family is a little non traditional and we are not having a religious ceremony, so the order is not incredibly important to me, I just want to make sure that I'm not accidentally slighting someone.

I've looked at several websites and guides but they vary from each other. 

I was thinking:

Grooms Parents
Brides Mother
Groom and Officiant
Bridesmaids & Groomsmen in pairs
Grandfather of the Bride and Bride

I've read that the Brides Mother should be first, but I've also read that she should be after the Grooms Parents.

Also, is it weird if the Groom walked with the Mother of the Bride? I know my Mom is kind of sad about having to walk alone because both of my brothers are not able to make it.


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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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    dyerwise said:
    My wedding venue coordinator  has asked me for a rough outline of our processional order for the ceremony. My family is a little non traditional and we are not having a religious ceremony, so the order is not incredibly important to me, I just want to make sure that I'm not accidentally slighting someone.

    I've looked at several websites and guides but they vary from each other. 

    I was thinking:

    Grooms Parents
    Brides Mother
    Groom and Officiant
    Bridesmaids & Groomsmen in pairs
    Grandfather of the Bride and Bride

    I've read that the Brides Mother should be first, but I've also read that she should be after the Grooms Parents.

    Also, is it weird if the Groom walked with the Mother of the Bride? I know my Mom is kind of sad about having to walk alone because both of my brothers are not able to make it.


    The MOB processing typically signals that the wedding party is about to enter the ceremony space.  It is the reason why she is last in the processional.  The groom escorting either his own mother, or the bride's mother, is a new trend I personally enjoy. 

    I agree that walking alone is not always easy.  My son and his bride had all parents process alone, rather than as couples.  I felt very awkward walking alone.  I think it would be a lovely gesture for her SIL to escort her.
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  • ILoveBeachMusicILoveBeachMusic member
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    I have only seen MOB processing right before the WP. I think having your FI escort your mom is a lovely idea.
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  • artbyallieartbyallie mod
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    H escorted my mom, directly before the wedding party and after his parents entered together.
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  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat member
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    I'll have my officiant go first, then my mom and step-dad go, followed by groom escorting his mom since she is widowed and I don't want her walking alone, then BMan & MOH, then GM and BMaid, then my son and myself. 
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    I'd have the MOB escorted by anyone you want and before the WP.    Generally the MOH (w/ the BM if you want them as couples) goes before the bride. 
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  • kahluakoalakahluakoala member
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    90% of the weddings I've been to (disclaimer: I'm jewish and this is traditional for us, but I've seen it in non-family non-religious / non-jewish weddings as well) the bride was escorted by both parents. Why not have your mom and grandfather escort you together?
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  • OurWildKingdomOurWildKingdom member
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    KahluaKoala said:
    90% of the weddings I've been to (disclaimer: I'm jewish and this is traditional for us, but I've seen it in non-family non-religious / non-jewish weddings as well) the bride was escorted by both parents. Why not have your mom and grandfather escort you together?
    I really like this idea.
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  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing member
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    In most of the weddings I've attended, the groom does escort the MOB, and she is usually last before the wedding party. 
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  • dyerwisedyerwise member
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    KahluaKoala said:
    90% of the weddings I've been to (disclaimer: I'm jewish and this is traditional for us, but I've seen it in non-family non-religious / non-jewish weddings as well) the bride was escorted by both parents. Why not have your mom and grandfather escort you together?
    I think this is a very sweet idea and I wish my family was normal enough for this. My Grandfather and my Mom are not on good terms.

    My mother hasn't really had a positive role in my life.  We barely spoke for ~4 years and we have been working on building a relationship for the last 2 years. Our relationship is sometimes more like she is the daughter and I am her mother or like sisters.  She is very excited to be part of our wedding and she has told me a few times that she worried she'd never be invited to my wedding.

    I think for her being part of the processional is special and for my Grandfather, who raised me my entire life, its really important to him that he is getting to walk me down the aisle. If my Mom were to be part of that it would be uncomfortable for him.


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  • kahluakoalakahluakoala member
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    dyerwise said:
    KahluaKoala said:
    90% of the weddings I've been to (disclaimer: I'm jewish and this is traditional for us, but I've seen it in non-family non-religious / non-jewish weddings as well) the bride was escorted by both parents. Why not have your mom and grandfather escort you together?
    I think this is a very sweet idea and I wish my family was normal enough for this. My Grandfather and my Mom are not on good terms.

    My mother hasn't really had a positive role in my life.  We barely spoke for ~4 years and we have been working on building a relationship for the last 2 years. Our relationship is sometimes more like she is the daughter and I am her mother or like sisters.  She is very excited to be part of our wedding and she has told me a few times that she worried she'd never be invited to my wedding.

    I think for her being part of the processional is special and for my Grandfather, who raised me my entire life, its really important to him that he is getting to walk me down the aisle. If my Mom were to be part of that it would be uncomfortable for him.



    Ah, I understand. In that case, I think PPs have some more appropriate suggestions for your situation. It would be nice to have your mom be escorted.
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