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MissKittyDanger · July 2016

@DrillSergeantCat ahh makes sense. My dad and grandfathers aren't around, and my H's parents have new spouses - which changes numbers - but I don't want to know until we all find out. I don't get people who have reveals and already know! Zero fun in that!
Are you doing the same as your last child for this one?

MesmrEwe · July 2016

NAF of the whole "Gender reveal" type stuff... Here's the big reveal - register for the little pink outfit on the baby registry along with the girly pnp, I'll get the hint - that's all I need...

And yes, we found out with both kids and the us tech was kind of miffed that we wanted to find out. It was like "um- is there any other reason to have a 20w us?!?!?" (mind you, with my first my doctor when it came to the whole if anything showed up was like "birth is birth, we don't treat it any differently when someone is having a SN child as we would for someone who isn't"... Put it into perspective on the spot especially since he was the "if everything is going to heck in a hand basket you want on your team" guy)

DrillSergeantCat · July 2016

@MissKittyDanger yes, we'll do the same.
@MesmrEwe there are definitely other reasons for the 20 week us. That's where they do the measurements to be sure baby is on track. I can't believe the tech was miffed you wanted to know, though. There are us boutiques for that sole purpose so why would that be surprising to her?

monkeysip · July 2016

I need a place to vent, and this thread was just waiting her for me

H's parents rented a beach house a few weeks from now, and they invited all their adults kids (they have 5) and spouses, grandchildren, etc. That's very generous of them.

One of H's brothers has a 10 year old kid who is just difficult. Sweet kid, but very rambunctious and requires all your attention when you're taking care of him.

The brother and his wife cannot come to the beach house because they have to work, which sucks, but brother called my MIL and put his kid on the phone to ask grandma why she doesn't take him to the beach house.

So basically, brother expects grandma and grandpa to watch his kid all weekend at the beach. This was supposed to be their weekend... they paid for the beach house. They invited their kids to come presuming they would watch their own children. Not to babysit this boy all weekend.

MIL was complaining to H about it because she's very upset and feels torn. She and FIL really wanted a relaxing beach weekend (they never go anywhere or relax or anything). But she feels like she can't let her son and grandson down. What an awful position to put her in.

This is not the first time this has happened. H's brother has complained that his parents don't watch his kid as much as he wants (they watch him all the time--in fact, they're going to babysit him this weekend). When my in-laws paid for us all to go on a cruise together, brother complained that they didn't watch his kid and let them go on excursions alone (UMMM... you're complaining on a free cruise??).

Obviously I'm not getting involved. My mouth is shut. I'm just venting here because I think it's super crappy when people think they can thrust their kids on other people, like grandparents, and I feel bad for my in-laws. Although I do think to a degree they're enabling it, and I'm worried they're going to say yes to this again.

kahluakoala · July 2016

Re: Everyone on padding - I have big boobs but I also have big nipples and the padding helps them keep from showing when I have a wet bathing suit. I am the only one?

cowgirl8238 · July 2016

KahluaKoala said:

Re: Everyone on padding - I have big boobs but I also have big nipples and the padding helps them keep from showing when I have a wet bathing suit. I am the only one?

Nope me too on this...In fact all of my bra's have to have some form of padding or I am flashing the world the highbeams! Sometimes if I catch a chill they will show THROUGH the padding!!!! GAH

MissKittyDanger · July 2016

@monkeysip What a complicated situation

I don't understand parents who think of grandparents as babysitters. Just to clarify, for the beach house did your BIL and SIL ask if grandparents could watch the kid or just kind of assume they would?

MissKittyDanger · July 2016

As for the boob situation .... I'm personally not a big chested girl - average size - but I find tops and swimsuits have padding regardless size! Turns my B cup into a D cup! H doesn't complain (haha!) but it looks weird

lyndausvi · July 2016

KahluaKoala said:

Re: Everyone on padding - I have big boobs but I also have big nipples and the padding helps them keep from showing when I have a wet bathing suit. I am the only one?

I honestly do not care about nipples popping through a bathing suit. When nipples get cold and wet they pop out. That's life. No big deal.

monkeysip · July 2016

MissKittyDanger said:

@monkeysip What a complicated situation I don't understand parents who think of grandparents as babysitters. Just to clarify, for the beach house did your BIL and SIL ask if grandparents could watch the kid or just kind of assume they would?

Their way of asking was to put their son on the phone and ask grandma if he could come. It's just really manipulative to use the son like that.

VarunaTT · July 2016

Dear Diva,

You have broken my work ethic. Since "going the extra mile" is as likely to get me yelled at for wasting time and/or efforts and/or not thinking, as it is to get me praised, I don't do those things for you anymore. So, to be irritated with me for not "going the extra mile" when I do exactly what I'm told to do and nothing more/less?

Here's my invitation to kindly go fuck yourself too.

Image: http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/e6/df/24/e6df24ab94fb8a282eea97f4d5986890.jpg

MissKittyDanger · July 2016

monkeysip said:

MissKittyDanger said:

@monkeysip What a complicated situation I don't understand parents who think of grandparents as babysitters. Just to clarify, for the beach house did your BIL and SIL ask if grandparents could watch the kid or just kind of assume they would?

Their way of asking was to put their son on the phone and ask grandma if he could come. It's just really manipulative to use the son like that.

No kidding! It's one thing to ask and see if grandparents wouldn't mind, it's another for manipulation

AddieCake · July 2016

@drglitter (iPad wanted so badly for you to be "drug litter) I'm sorry about your friend.

I am in the minority who loves gender reveals. We would want to know ahead of time.

My vent is a family member who is so fucking negative and suspicious about everything. She thinks every FB post contains an ulterior motive and recently got upset that people called HER "cute" in a pic she posted and her SIL "beautiful" in one she posted. Today she told me she hates people who click "interested in going" to events because then that shows up in her feed and she believes people don't actually attend half these events and are just trying to make themselves look busy and interesting.

JFC who has time for this nonsense?

Heffalump · July 2016

KahluaKoala said:

Re: Everyone on padding - I have big boobs but I also have big nipples and the padding helps them keep from showing when I have a wet bathing suit. I am the only one?

No, you are definitely not the only one. My office is chilly in the summer, and I wear padded (well, lined) bras for this very reason.

charlotte989875 · July 2016

@monkeysip I feel bad your in-laws. My SIL (H's brother's wife) who is usually super awesome and we get along well, does something similar at times. All the men go on long big-game hunting trips (like 2 weeks long). My SIL is a teacher and has two children under 10. For the last few trips she pretty much volun-told our MIL when to come out and help her watch the kids. In the past MIL has offered but SIL has taken that to mean every time there's a trip she's coming out (~7 hour drive) to help Without actually asking her. Last time we had the in-laws over MIL was complaining that SIL just told her when to come and when FIL goes out of town it's her time to relax and do whatever she wants. She feels like she can't say no bc she loves seeing the kids, but it's a sucky situation for her to be put in. I kept my mouth shut and just let her vent.

monkeysip · July 2016

charlotte989875 said:

@monkeysip I feel bad your in-laws. My SIL (H's brother's wife) who is usually super awesome and we get along well, does something similar at times. All the men go on long big-game hunting trips (like 2 weeks long). My SIL is a teacher and has two children under 10. For the last few trips she pretty much volun-told our MIL when to come out and help her watch the kids. In the past MIL has offered but SIL has taken that to mean every time there's a trip she's coming out (~7 hour drive) to help Without actually asking her. Last time we had the in-laws over MIL was complaining that SIL just told her when to come and when FIL goes out of town it's her time to relax and do whatever she wants. She feels like she can't say no bc she loves seeing the kids, but it's a sucky situation for her to be put in. I kept my mouth shut and just let her vent.

Yeah, it just sucks. H's siblings had their kids very young, which is fine, but it meant that they needed H's parents to practically help raise them. They had their own children young too, so I feel like they've been raising someone's kids for like 43 years. It's nice of them to offer help, but they're taken advantage of a lot. They deserve a break. Of course they want to see their grandchild, but not be his sole caretaker for a whole weekend.

H and I try really hard not to burden them. We rarely ask for babysitting, and when we ask, we ASK, not tell, and we don't pressure them at all.

kimmiinthemitten · July 2016

Baby Martyr sister just struck again. I was sleeping when my phone rang and I ignored it, but the then the caller left a message. I look to see who it is and its sister. She never leaves voicemails so I immediately listen.

She is all like "I'm sure you're still sleeping since you get to sleep in super late every weekend."

Bitch, it's 8am on a Saturday. #sorrynotsorry my choice to not have a baby means I get to sleep and you don't.

And not that it matters because I'm an adult who can sleep when I want to but I was up watching OITNB until 3 and I'm working a wedding which is a 10 hour shift, so yeah I'm still sleeping. I'm just sick of her judgey passive/aggressive shit.

OurWildKingdom · July 2016

I was planning on doing some cleaning up on the porch, but it is entirely too hot.

ETA: I know it's summer in the Midwest and being close to the lake does make the weather slightly more tolerable, but I'm still over it.

Herbert272008 · July 2016

Haven't worn a swimsuit in a year, but as a big-chested girl, I would be frustrated with pads in my swimsuit.

My vent is that wedding photographer that I booked 15 months ago bailed on me yesterday. She offered a replacement or my money back, and since I couldn't get ahold of her for two weeks, I got my money back. I don't feel like I can trust someone she recommends or feel comfortable with them. Now I just want to call the wedding off and say fuck it, everyone stay home. We can just get married at city hall and leave it at that. I already struggle with depression and this just really brought up self-esteem issues. She acted like it was no big deal and I felt like a stalker because I had to email her twice, call her 3x times, text once, and finally message her on facebook over the span of two weeks before she replied by email to tell me she accidentally double-booked herself. I could be and probably am overreacting, but I feel that she could have told me sooner than 19 days before my wedding. I have some connections from art school that do photography professionally, so I might be able to find a substitute photographer. I've put a lot of work into this wedding, but this made my feel like my wedding isn't important. Of course in the grand scheme of things, it isn't important but I've just lost my enthusiasm for doing the rest of the wedding stuff.

OurWildKingdom · July 2016

@Herbert272008, that sucks! I'm so sorry that happened to you.

TNDancer · July 2016

My vent: I got a punctured tire this week. All of them were worn down, so I needed to buy a full set. Sucks, but that's life.

I was in the middle of deciding new ones when H arrives to pick me up. I am apparently now a stupid woman and whenever I ask a question, the salesman responds to H. Hello, I am the one buying tires here.

The "worst" part is that he was very nice to H, and remembered him from prior visits, so I can't even bitch in peace.

short+sassy · July 2016

ernursej said:

I would like to vent about work but can't due to privacy concerns. I'll just say that when people are upset/angry, they should wait 24 hours before acting on it. I was at the receiving end of a very inappropriate conversation. Now I'm stressed out. I carry all my stress in my upper back and shoulders ... now I look like the hunchback. Lovely! I think I'll have me a beer and attempt to think of ways to decrease my stress.

Me too! I keep some of those stick-on, disposable heating pads for the shoulders/neck in my office desk at work. Just for such occasions.

charlotte989875 · July 2016

We're car shopping and it sucks. My car is 12 years old, has 150,000 miles on it, has a ton of problems (went through numerous recalls) so we're looking for a new one. H has an older model Jeep that neither of us like (he bought it a few years ago when he really wanted a truck but listened to his dad and not me...). So he's talking about trying to get an old one he can replace and beat around. Fine.

Except not fine, we can't finance two cars, so we'd have to pay cash for a truck and that's taking away from down payments for a car. We also want to keep the monthly payment low. So I'm super annoyed that he wants to spend money on a truck that we don't actually need and I have to look at lower priced cars I don't love.

short+sassy · July 2016

VarunaTT said:

I have a friend that I struggle with. I love her and we are close, but she can be a righteous asshole.

She is supporting Trump b/c "she wants to burn it all down" and has taken to posting on my FB wall that I'm supporting a monster. We fought tooth and nail over Sanders v. Clinton and she never really had any sort of response to my thought out objections to Sanders beyond "Clinton is a monster". I can't handle it anymore. I've put her on restricted, banned her from my Page, and turned off chat to her. I'm not going to be fucking bullied by anyone, but coming from this person is exceptionally disappointing and mind bottling.

And I can feel a major political rant coming on for my liberal minded friends who are being assholes with voting for Trump or #Bernieorbust with WTF DO YOU THINK IS NEXT? Please, read up on some political history of the world. Read up on the political history of the US. Read some damn group and human behavior theories. The revolution isn't going to happen. It never has, it never will in this country. Income inequality isn't even close to where it was during the Great Depression and there wasn't a "Revolution of the people". Get over your damn selves, get your ass to a volunteer organization and put some damn skin in the game to change things rather than sitting behind your keyboard and bitching. There is no political organization, from Black Lives Matter to the Democratic Party, that complains of too many volunteers. So, I'd like to kindly invite you to shut the fuck up, roll up your sleeves, and put your time and money where your goddamn mouth is running.

Yeah, I'm having some feels/venting this morning.

Argh! I also have a very good friend who is difficult to get along with politically. Here's the thing. I don't mind at all that we are polar opposites on most political and social issues. I love a good, respectful, and educated debate! I learn a lot that way about the "other side" and can better understand the issues and different perspectives.

Except this friend takes Fox News and crazy, right wing "facts" from the Internet as gospel. Although not her wackiest argument ever, this one is still my favorite. The subject was the ACA, before it was voted in. She asks me, "I'm so worried about you! I've heard there won't be enough drugs available on the ACA if this takes effect and what will you do about your insulin? (I have Type I Diabetes)." At first I assumed she meant there would be an issue with drugs being paid for and said, "Ummmm...then I guess I'll pay for it out of pocket. JUST LIKE I DO NOW, every time I'm not under a group policy...can't buy my own insurance at ANY PRICE...or am under a group policy, but have to wait one year before it covers my pre-existing condition." As in, half my adult life I have paid out of pocket for everything related to my diabetes.

Then she corrects me that she meant there will be a shortage of drugs and I might not be able to find insulin to buy. It was really hard to keep a straight face on that one. I reminded her that pharmaceutical companies are private entities...and extremely money hungry ones, at that...and will most certainly ramp up their supply to meet whatever demands are needed. She still seemed worried, so I assured her I buy my insulin through an online Canadian pharmacy anyway because the same medication is half the price. Despite our differences and her misguided info, she was sweet to worry! I'm just glad she didn't connect the dots that, whether I buy it in the U.S. or Canada, it's the same U. S. pharmaceutical company.

Wait! Was she right? Does the fact that the price has been jacked up 3-4 times since the ACA passed mean the supply is getting too low?

Oh no, that's right. I forgot. Pharmaceutical companies=money hungry jackals.

short+sassy · July 2016

My vent for the day.

It rained hard earlier. But just for ten minutes. With the first minute being as I was walking one block from my car back to my office, carrying lunch. Now I'm having to sit in damp clothes, in the office a/c, for the rest of the day.

One minute earlier or 9 minutes later coming back from lunch, and I would have been fine. But no.

MissKittyDanger · July 2016

Vent:
Background info - i work for a bankruptcy firm
There's one client who has literally complained to both my coworker and myself about "why should I pay you X amount per month and I have to pay X amount to get a new phone!?" I explained the deposit amount is because credit is now in an R9 rating {aka shot to hell} and we can't change that.
"Well why am I paying you" etc etc
DUDE!! YOU JUST GOT RID OF A LARGE AMOUNT OF DEBT!!! PICK YOUR FUCKING BATTLES AND STOP BEING A DOUCHE

I apologize there's nothing I can do AND HE SAYS "you're not actually 'sorry' "
LIKE FUCK I AM NOT BUT I HAVE A GODDAMN JOB TO DO AND I'M SORRY I CANNOT HELP YOU MORE!!! DON'T TELL ME I AM NOT APOLOGETIC.

Urg .... people.

ernursej · July 2016

A coworker had left stuff in the office for over 2 years. I had reminded her a few times but it never got picked up. Today, as part of a cleaning rage, I was like f*ck it and recycled it. My other coworker got very pissed at me and so I went recycle box diving, put everything back together for first coworker. I texted this coworker about what happened and she indicated that she didn't realize it was a bother. Not really, but honestly, just take home your crap from common spaces.

I'm feeling bad now because I wanted a clean space but I really should have tried one more time to get her to take it and spent a lot of time putting binders back together.

Greenjinjo · July 2016

It is close friends birthday next week on Friday. During a text conversation I thought I would give her a heads up that FI and I are driving 7 hours up north for a long weekend (his grandfather's milestone birthday) so won't be in town for it.

NBD right? Nope. Friend is super pissed because apparently we had made plans already weeks ago for the Friday night (I have no recollection but I will happily admit I don't have the best memory at times). I feel bad, tell her I will try and work something out. Now I have radio silence.

My vent here is obviously in most people's minds their birthday is a special day, shit happens and things are double booked. I gave her a heads up a week before hand. On my birthday however her and her partner didn't even have the courage to tell me they didn't feel like coming over. I ended up texting them and asking how far away they were as we were thinking of getting the BBQ started. That's when I get the "oh we can't make it tonight, not feeling up to it". I didn't get angry. Was slightly annoyed that they didn't tell me earlier but I had a good night.

Honestly, I don't know if I want to try and reshuffle what we have set as our plan for next weekend. I do feel bad but I don't want to give in to her getting angry. When the roles have been reversed (which they have before) she just says whoops, maybe next time.

...

That felt good. Clearing my head a bit!

sparklepants41 · July 2016

It's kind of an irrational vent, but I need to get it out -

There is a woman in my department who is complete dead weight and can only handle one assignment at a time which makes the rest of us have to take on more. To make matters worse, she takes a ton of time off and then doesn't actually do much when she is in the office, and she claims to be a graphic designer but doesn't know the difference between a sans serif and a serif font (which I posted about before but still mystifies me). She is out of the office today (surprise surprise) and put me on her out of office message and she spelled my name wrong.

Again, not a very rational vent, but honestly. My name is not that difficult. And this is the kind of careless thing she does all the time - we need to be detail-oriented in our group and she is just worthless.

//end rant

DrillSergeantCat · July 2016

@sparklepants41 every time I see your name pop up I am reminded of this video.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-jN3vH26NQ

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