Conversation between myself and a co-worker AT WORK this morning via an internal IM system:
K: Hey! I just wanted to make sure you had my address! I asked S if she'd gotten your wedding invitation yet and she said she had but mine hasn't come yet. I can't remember if I gave you my address or not but I think it must have gotten lost in the mail somehow. You can just bring it to work if you want to save another stamp! lol
(Internal thoughts: holy fucksticks what do I do?)
Me: Oh, I'm so sorry K! We really wanted to be able to invite everybody from work but the guest list was kind of out of control. We weren't really able to invite any work friends unfortunately.
K: Oh. So just S then? She's the only one you invited? And I guess M and A and J too?
Me: M,A,and J are in the wedding party because we're very close friends with them and S and I hang out outside of work. I'm sorry, I don't really feel like I should have to explain my guest list to you..these are people that we're friends with outside of work. We weren't able to invite work friends, just close friends and family. Sorry! ***Disclaimer I did not actually type: NOT sorry***
Done. I'm done. She is the 2nd person who's called me out on not inviting them. (The first one was wanting to double check the date and when I informed her that we weren't able to invite work friends she actually IM'd my FI to ask what church we were getting married at. So she might STILL JUST SHOW UP.) FI and I met at our work, got engaged and now we're getting married. So it seems that people we ONLY WORK WITH seem to have become emotionally attached to our story. We don't spend time together at work. We arrive and leave together but otherwise we don't make moon eyes at each other. We don't touch butts in the hallways. I don't swoon when he walks by (externally at least). I was told by a new person once that if they hadn't heard we were a couple, they would think we didn't even know each other. We do NOT talk about the wedding at work. I never promised invites to anyone. I don't discuss the wedding on facebook. If someone asks me how the planning is going, I tell them it's going great and we're having a lot of fun but that's about as far as I go with it. No details. No pictures. Nothing. I would never imagine asking someone where my invitation is.
I want to make posters and put them on every surface now at work:
New Rule that applies to ABSOLUTELY EVERYONE. Follow these rules and you'll be set.
Want to go to someone's wedding? Wondering where your invite is?......
1. Ask yourself: Self? Do I hang out with this person? Are we friends? Do I know anything about them outside of facebook facts? Have I ever EVER hung out with them in a social setting? Do I even have their phone number?
2. If you answer "No" to an overwhelming amount of the previous questions, you're not invited. Your invitation was not lost in the mail. Don't ask where it is. Don't wait up. It's. Never. Coming.
3. Get over it. You're rude. Don't be like that.