A very weird 3 men

Re: A very weird 3 men

• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  August 2016

  If the relationship isn't forever, just end it now. It's apparent to me that the monogamy is not a two-way street anyhow. 

  

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  August 2016

  You've been together over a year, he has sent and received nude photos with another woman, the relation is casual and not forever, and you want to know if it's okay to ask him to delete the photos? I think LW is asking the wrong question here.
  
  How about leave him and find someone else?

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• AddieCake member

  

  August 2016

  Meh. I wouldn't leave him over it, but I would definitely tell him he needs to delete the photos. 

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• missJeanLouise member

  

  August 2016

  So he has naked pictures of his co-worker... yeah, I would want him to delete them.

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• bleve0821 member

  

  August 2016

  mrsconn23 said:

  Dear Prudence,
  My boyfriend and I have been dating (monogamously, but casually) for over a year. A few months ago, he (virtually) cheated on me with a girl at work. They sent each other explicit photos and videos, although nothing physical happened. He’s apologized, and we’ve moved on—but the photos haven’t. I usually subscribe to the idea that your nudes are your business—I would like to look back on my deathbed at all the nudes I have ever enjoyed and chuckle quietly. However, I think that the infidelity makes this a different situation. Am I within my rights to ask him to delete them, even though we both know that our relationship isn’t forever?

  —Can I Ask Him to Delete His Nudes

  Then she should delete all her nudes, too, regardless of whether they were taken before or during the current "monogamous" relationship.  She can't be allowed to have nudes, whether she's enjoying them or not, if she can't allow her BF to have and enjoy his in kind.
  

  
  

  "And when they use our atoms to make new lives, they won’t just be able to take one, they’ll have to take two, one of you and one of me..."
  

  --Philip Pullman

  
  

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• kimmiinthemitten member

  

  August 2016

  Casual but exclusive sounds about as vague as the chick who wanted an organic, whimsical wedding.  WTF does that mean?
  
  I'm guessing to him exclusive means we can't sleep with other people and to her it means he's her boyfriend but not future husband.

  
  

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• AddieCake member

  

  August 2016

  AtomicBlonde said:

  mrsconn23 said:

  Dear Prudence,
  My boyfriend and I have been dating (monogamously, but casually) for over a year. A few months ago, he (virtually) cheated on me with a girl at work. They sent each other explicit photos and videos, although nothing physical happened. He’s apologized, and we’ve moved on—but the photos haven’t. I usually subscribe to the idea that your nudes are your business—I would like to look back on my deathbed at all the nudes I have ever enjoyed and chuckle quietly. However, I think that the infidelity makes this a different situation. Am I within my rights to ask him to delete them, even though we both know that our relationship isn’t forever?

  —Can I Ask Him to Delete His Nudes

  Then she should delete all her nudes, too, regardless of whether they were taken before or during the current "monogamous" relationship.  She can't be allowed to have nudes, whether she's enjoying them or not, if she can't allow her BF to have and enjoy his in kind.
  

  We don't know that she physically still HAS those nudes, though. I imagine if she did, she would know this would be a hypocritical situation and wouldn't be looking for advice about it. 

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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