Without getting into the crazy details that make up this entire family situation I will give you the main issue... My FI proposed just 2 months ago. We are very excited and planning a wedding for next year. My FI has only one sister and has always been close with his mother. I asked his sister to join the bridal party as a bridesmaid. In the past 2 months any time my FI and I have made a decision, any decision that they do not agree with or does not fit in their "family" plan they become hostile and begin attacking us verbally.
My FI recently made a decision they do not agree with to abstain from a family vacation due to financial constraints. They have taken this decision as a direct attack on their family. My FMIL called and left a VM telling us to remove her from the guest list to make room for people we really care about. His sister asked that we remove her and her family from the wedding party. I have ignored these requests as of right now because I feel they were made out of anger and I do not want to make the situation worse.
I don't know what to do... Do I leave them in or take them out? I can't imagine removing them, but how do I navigate making plans and handling them?
Our wedding is a year away and they are already behaving this way! I can't handle a whole year of this while planning what is supposed to be one of the happiest days of our lives.
Please help!