His family live in Montana, my family live in Louisiana, our friends live all around the country. We knew from the start that no matter what it would be a destination wedding for most people.
I asked his family directly, several times if they were cool with a New Orleans wedding. I picked a date specifically that would be convenient and ran it past them. All along the way, they said 'Do what you want, don't worry about us, we will make it work'.
Still I was cautious and wanted to ensure they would have a good time.
We decided to cover the rehearsal dinner ourselves because they didn't want to host. I picked a low-key venue specifically with them in mind that I thought they'd enjoy.
I picked catering that they'd like, I even picked a hotel in a specific neighborhood where it would be easy for them to rent an inexpensive house for the whole family.
Save the Dates have been sent, deposits have been made, and today, 5 months from the wedding, they messaged through his dad that none of them are coming. Not his parents, his sister, or his nephews.
Even his aunt, who he's very close with and lives in much closer Dallas isn't coming (because his mom isn't).
Their reasons are 1) the travel is too expensive and 2) it's not a big church wedding so what's the point.
I am crushed and I don't know what to do.
His family is really important to him, but he insists "it's not a big deal". Even if that's true for him, it is a big deal to me.
He said they wouldn't accept money if we offered to cover their travel.
It's hard to not be hurt by it all, especially his aunt blowing it off solely because her sister wouldn't be there.
I feel like I did everything right... If they had given any hesitation, I would have planned the whole thing in Montana and made my family travel.
Or would they have just found another excuse not to attend....
I don't know, I'm really at a loss. Do I try to move the wedding? Beg at least his mom to let me fly her down?
Any advice would mean a lot....