General Consensus

SoldiersMom · August 2016

So before I go and waste my money...is the general consensus a thumbs down on personalized "bridesmaid" items? I was thinking of getting zip up hoodies for the girls for the after party. But I get the sense from reading these boards that most arent favorable on these types of items. Has anyone gotten something like this from a wedding they were in and did it just get tossed in the back of your closet?

I did get the girls individual gifts. This would just be in addition.

geebee908 · August 2016

This would definitely be a once-worn item for me. Your money could be better spent in other ways.

SoldiersMom · August 2016

Thank you!

MobKaz · August 2016

SoldiersMom said:

So before I go and waste my money...is the general consensus a thumbs down on personalized "bridesmaid" items? I was thinking of getting zip up hoodies for the girls for the after party. But I get the sense from reading these boards that most arent favorable on these types of items. Has anyone gotten something like this from a wedding they were in and did it just get tossed in the back of your closet?

I did get the girls individual gifts. This would just be in addition.

My daughter has gotten at least two robes. She has never worn them a day beyond the wedding. As the MOB, I was invited unexpectedly to DD's work shower. I scrambled for a last minute gift to get for her. A close friend said DD had her eye on a personalized hoodie. I can't remember if it said "bride" or "wife/y" on it. I saw her wear it once prior to the wedding, and I think she used it as lounge/sleepwear on her honeymoon. I think it has long since hit the garbage bin.

These items seem cute and fun in "the heat of the moment/excitement prior to the wedding", but it fades fast.

ILoveBeachMusic · August 2016

SoldiersMom said:

So before I go and waste my money...is the general consensus a thumbs down on personalized "bridesmaid" items? I was thinking of getting zip up hoodies for the girls for the after party. But I get the sense from reading these boards that most arent favorable on these types of items. Has anyone gotten something like this from a wedding they were in and did it just get tossed in the back of your closet?

I did get the girls individual gifts. This would just be in addition.

If you mean having "bridesmaid" written on it, I wouldn't spend the money. If it is a type of zip up hoodie that the girls would normally wear, than I think it is ok. DD and I wear those kind of jackets to go to the gym but wouldn't wear it if it had any kind of writing on it that referred to your wedding.

OliveOilsMom · August 2016

I you want to get them plain hoodies, go for it. But do not personalize them, if you want you BP to wear them again!

Jen4948 · August 2016

I agree.

I was a bridesmaid for my SIL, who gave her wedding party members candle holders engraved with a "wedding" message.

I've never found a use for mine and it's taking up space in a cabinet.

I've gotten other "personalized" gifts over the years that I've never used.

A plain hoodie might find some use, but I wouldn't give anything "personalized."

ernursej · August 2016

I've never used any of the personalized items from a wedding again. I don't like my name on things so I would not get any use out of something. Save your money or spend it on something else.

[Deleted User] · August 2016

Personally, I would love a zip up hoodie. I wear them all the time. But not if it said your wedding date or bridesmaid or anything else related to your wedding. I probably wouldn't have an issue if it was personalized with my name on it.

SoldiersMom · August 2016

Thanks so much for all the replies! Yes, I was thinking name or initial on the front and bridesmaid on the back. I've never been a bridesmaid myself so I've never gotten any personalized robes, goodies, etc. but I can definitely see how things of the sort would get tossed after the fact. I think this is falling hard into the "skip" category.

SP29 · August 2016

I would skip it.

I'd probably wear it once for whatever event related to the wedding, and then never again- because I'm not a bridesmaid anymore, right?

drunkenwitch · August 2016

I personally would never wear a hoodie, like PPs said I would wear it once to make my friend happy and then it would end up on the bottom if the closet never to be seen again.

I once hosted a bridal shower for a friend. I wasn't expecting any kind of gift but she brought me a wonderful and thoughtful hostess gift. She knew I loved, LOVED tea and didn't have an infusing teapot. So she bought me one that was elegant and fit my style along with a few bags of loose leaf tea. The gift showed me that she put thought into what I would like and to this day is still in use and one of tbe best presents I have ever received. Gifts don't have to be expensive, when someone obviously puts an effort to find you something that fits you, those are the best.

lyndausvi · August 2016

Add me to the list of people who wear hoodies, but would never wear a bridesmaid hoodie except on the day of the wedding I was a BM for.

Waste of money IMO.

Shadowlight166 · September 2016

At the last wedding I was a bridesmaid in, we were all given bridesmaid robes. I wear mine all the time, it's nice and warm and reminds me of the day. But I know the other bridesmaids weren't impressed so I think I'm in the minority, one of these bridesmaids didn't even take hers from the hotel when she left.

short+sassy · September 2016

Shadowlight166 said:

At the last wedding I was a bridesmaid in, we were all given bridesmaid robes. I wear mine all the time, it's nice and warm and reminds me of the day. But I know the other bridesmaids weren't impressed so I think I'm in the minority, one of these bridesmaids didn't even take hers from the hotel when she left.

I just pictured a crazy, hoarder hotel maid with an entire closet in her house stuffed with varying hues of robes that say "Bridesmaid" on the back, lol.

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