Do you write anything on your "No" RSVPs?

drglitter · September 2016

If you're RSVPing no to a wedding, do you write anything? I've always checked no and written something like "Wish I could be there!" "Will miss getting to see you" "Best wishes!" etc.

Every no RSVP I've gotten so far has just had a check mark next to "regrets".

Just curious what other people do. Just checking no seems so impersonal. But, maybe people think it's weird that I write something.

Edited to fix a typo.

spockforprez · September 2016

Definitely. But I am a sentimental schmuck.

lyndausvi · September 2016

Not always.

My mom got the RSVPs so Im not sure if people wrote anything or not. Or I do not recall if mom said something.

drglitter · September 2016

@spockforprez I guess I'm a sentimental schmuck too. I thought I'd be able to make some kind of cute collage with the RSVPs. Nope.

The most interesting thing anyone's written so far is next to Dietary Restrictions: "No nuts. (Human nuts are ok)." That did make me laugh.

Edited to fix another typo.

ILoveBeachMusic · September 2016

If I am pretty close to the couple, I write a little note. DD received several notes on her no RSVPs. I saved them for her so she could read them - one was a fairly long note. She also received notes son several yes RSVPS.

InLoveInQueens · September 2016

Never. I just don't think about it or feel like I need to.

ei34 · September 2016

I didn't receive many no RSVP's. One guest wrote "sorry we can't be there can't wait to see pictures!" and the other didn't write anything, just checked the box.

When I rsvp no I usually do write a little "sorry we'll miss it" line. And when I RSVP yes, if it's someone I'm close to I can't help put a little "yay can't wait!" or something. My best work was when my sister/best friend got married. I included a pic of Jessie Spano mid-breakdown with "I'M SO EXCITED...AND I JUST CAN'T HIDE IT!!!" in magic marker. I really am nuts sometimes.

OurWildKingdom · September 2016

We got a couple, "Sorry we'll miss it! Thank you for inviting us! We're so happy for you!"

charlottesmom0626 · September 2016

I usually write in a note either way. For our wedding, I got a few just Xs in the decline spot, and a few novels on the back. I think it just depends on how wordy the person is...I wouldn't take it offensively.

MairePoppy · September 2016

If you really think about it, those fill in the blank RSVPs are impersonal, by nature. I'm not putting down the printed RSVPs; they are convenient for the invitees and the hosts and assure the responses are correctly addressed. In the old days, before the 60s or 70s, invitees responded by writing a note on their own stationary.

If I'm not attending the wedding, but sending a gift, I will write my note in the gift card. If I don't know the couple well, and will not be sending a gift, I might add a very brief note on the back of the card.

lyndausvi · September 2016

I have to say the amount of the times I've had to RSVP no is pretty low. Normally I've already been in contact with the couple before sending back the RSVP. So I've never really felt the need. The rare times we were not in contact with the couple then I would send a note.

levioosa · September 2016

I usually write a note.

STARMOON44 · September 2016

Never. I always send a card if I'm invited to a wedding and can't attend, but I never write on the RSVP.

CMGragain · September 2016

This is why those pre-printed RSVPs used to be considered rude. If it bothers you, you can still properly send a personal note with regrets that you cannot attend. (no reason necessary!), and best wishes for the couple.

APDSS22 · September 2016

I like to write a little note. Most of ours had something on them like "too close to our due date, wish we could be there!" Or "so excited for you, too bad we can't make it."

SP29 · September 2016

Never.

So far, any wedding I've been invited to is that of someone whom I would truly want to attend their wedding. Thus, I write a personal note in the card that I sent with their gift.

kvruns · September 2016

I never write anything. I think we only had something written on one of ours? And I think we didn't even get a couple declines back they were straight up word of mouth.

DrillSergeantCat · September 2016

Our RSVPs were online and several people left notes regardless of their attendance, but I don't think I would write a note on an RSVP card I'm returning.

ShesSoCold · September 2016

I think I've only declined one wedding in my adult life and we were obviously B-listed. Since we received the invitation after the RSVP date, the couple wrote "just let us know whenever you can!" or something like that. So I wrote a little "sorry we can't make it" and mailed it back like, the same day.

CharmedPam · September 2016

I don't think I've ever declined, but it would depend on the couple. I may write "Sorry I couldn't make it!" or something if I was close.

MissKittyDanger · September 2016

CharmedPam said:

I don't think I've ever declined, but it would depend on the couple. I may write "Sorry I couldn't make it!" or something if I was close.

I was just about to write the same thing.

drglitter · September 2016

Thanks everybody. Good point about writing something in a card instead if you're sending one. I'm not offended, just curious.

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