My fiance and I have been together for 12 years and we're getting married in June. I've been looking forward to dress shopping and finding a dress my fiance and I both love. The problem is my family. I am heavier than I would like to be and my mom has already asked me 2x in a month if I am actively working at losing weight.
Backstory: until I was 18 I was extremely fit and thin. I even went through a time of near anorexia (mostly because of her criticism and a feeling I was ugly if heavy) and was 5'8" and 110 pounds. It has taken me a long time but I am happy with my body and my curves as is my fiance. Both my mom and aunt have made comments about my weight and do not have tact when they do. Ex: it was the summer after I had worked hard to end my starving myself and we were looking at pictures of us at a family vacation and there was one of me sitting and stooped over and my aunt said I looked pregnant. It took all I had not to go back to starving myself.
I am worried that they will make comments about my weight throughout me trying on wedding dresses and may ruin it. I have talked repeatedly with my mom in the past about her comments and told her about when I was younger but she doesn't believe me. I love her and she has gotten much better and has been a bit more tactful in her comments but she wants me so much thinner, which is not going to happen before June and I will never go back to starving myself. I want my shopping to be a fun and happy experience not me crying in the dressing room. I even went so far as to try on some dresses with my sister and future sister in law while we were looking for bridesmaid dresses so I could at least have one good experience with dress shopping. My question is whether or not I should try again and talk with them about not commenting about me looking fat in dresses before going shopping or do as my sister says and go shopping without my family and only bring them in when I find some dresses I look nice in and love? I want to have this experience with my mom and aunt but don't want a bad experience.