When I sent my invitations 6 weeks ago, I sent one to my friend, his wife, and her daughter. He was deployed at the time and as soon as he got back in the states she left him and started telling people that he abused her and was stalking her. Because he's my friend and she made it clear to everyone at her bridal shower that I am his friend and not hers, I called him to be sure he knew he was invited. He said he'd love to come.
Now, he has told a mutual friend that he is bringing his wife who he RSVPd no for. Our friend told me this morning that she told him that he needed to talk to me before he just starts bringing people. I've already turned in my numbers to the caterer. I haven't heard from him yet, but if he does contact me, is it rude to tell him that it's too late?