my pappaw was a major part of mine and my dads life he passed in 2012. I want to do something special to honor him. I plan to have his seat reserved but I would like to hear other people advice also. I thought about when dad walks me down the aisle us both carrying a rose and putting it on pappaws chair before he gives me away. Is that ok to do?
Re: Honoring my deceased pappaw
At the reception, we had pictures of our dads (my DH's has passed also) on display but no cutesy saying about missing them or whatnot.
I carried a locket with my grandfather's picture on my bouquet. I had my photographer take a picture of it for me. That's it.
I get it. When we go through major life occasions it's human nature to reflect on who you wish could attend.
However to start to turn your wedding or any other celebratory event into a memorial for those who can't be there takes away from the occasion itself.
I'd opt for holding something sentimental or having a photo locket put into your bouquet.
Incorporate a favorite flower or color in your theme and decor. Play a favorite upbeat song during your reception. Incorporate a favorite food or beverage into your menu. If you have any clothing, sew a piece into your wedding dress, or wrap something around your bouquet.
I had my grandmother privately place a flower from my bouquet on Dad's grave after the wedding. No one knew except the two of us. The other posters' suggestions about carrying a private memento are good.
Carry a picture of him in a locket you wear, or a charm on your bouquet or bracelet.
You can wear or carry something your grandfather owned or that was associated with him; you can provide food, drinks, decorations, or entertainment he would have enjoyed; you can give him a tribute in a wedding program if you will have one, and you can say appropriate prayers if your ceremony is religious.
But anything that comes off as a sequel to a funeral, including reserved seats with flowers on them, should be avoided.