Monday (sigh)

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• kimmiinthemitten member

  

  October 2016

  Sounds like a great weekend Heff!  I'm glad to hear how that comment impacted your husband. I work with a bunch of Trump supporters so I posted on FB last night:  "If you want to defend Trumps words this week, remember that 25% of the women you know are victims of sexual assault and over 50% have been subjected to extreme sexual harassment.'  As someone who has been victim to the "just grab her by the pussy" mentality 5 times, I find it disgusting.   His dismissal of the comments as "locker room banter" to be vile and is evidence that he is completely unaware of the issues that affect half of the population. 
  
  I am on day 2 of my post bachelorette hangover haha. The weekend ended up being so amazing. My shower was brunch style with a Bloody Mary bar and mimosas (because I love brunch more than life). We had a couple more drop out of the limo bus last minute and then a couple hop on and we had a ridiculously good time. Since I'm an uber feminist they bought boob stuff instead of penis favors because my party shouldn't be all about the guys. Ha! I loved it!

  
  

  

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• Heffalump member

  

  October 2016

  kimmiinthemitten said:

  Sounds like a great weekend Heff!  I'm glad to hear how that comment impacted your husband. I work with a bunch of Trump supporters so I posted on FB last night:  "If you want to defend Trumps words this week, remember that 25% of the women you know are victims of sexual assault and over 50% have been subjected to extreme sexual harassment.'  As someone who has been victim to the "just grab her by the pussy" mentality 5 times, I find it disgusting.   His dismissal of the comments as "locker room banter" to be vile and is evidence that he is completely unaware of the issues that affect half of the population. 
  

  I cannot tell you how much I hate that argument about "locker room banter."  Even assuming he would never dream of doing such a thing (which several women are claiming otherwise), you think that joking about sexually assaulting women is good for some laughs and male bonding?  Oh, that's cool then.

  

  Also, people who say "It was 11 years ago?"  Sorry, but a) it's not as if he has shown any serious remorse, and b) it's not as though it would be out of character for him to tweet this morning, you know?  I don't see any evidence that his way of thinking about or treating women has changed for the better since then, so I don't care how long ago it was.

  I asked DH about the whole locker room banter, and he said "Not beyond high school, unless you're an asshole." 

  I, too, am puzzled that it took this long for many people to be disgusted by the things that man says, but better late than never.
  

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• VarunaTT member

  

  October 2016

  @kimmiinthemitten that sounds wonderful!
  
  I am so livid over the entire Trump fiasco of this weekend, that I could still just spit fire.  Also, HRC's shade about "I respect his children," was top notch.  I still wish she could've just said, "Nothing, because there's not a damn thing to respect about the person standing next to me.  Thank you." and mic dropped out of there for that last question.
  
  I have a phone interview this morning.  
  
  I have another job interview tomorrow at possibly the most well known and respected litigation firm in our city.  And they are LIBERAL AF.  YES, FINALLY.  I'm not totally gungho with the possibility of remaining a paralegal, but this firm actually does trials and takes the big cases.  When I worked in a firm that did that, I was completely content, b/c I was active, my brain was working, and I was able to stay interested.  So, I'm willing to give it a shot.  Plus, when I sent my resume, I had a return e-mail for an interview about 20 minutes later.  They require 5 years of experience, so it's a narrow market for them.

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• CharmedPam member

  

  October 2016

  My mom came into town for my bro's and SIL's baby shower.  Two months and I'm going to be an aunt again.  The shower was great, along with some really weird games but whatevs.  It could have been worse and it was kept to a minimum.  They had a cute card to fill out "message to the new baby" with "I hope you learn....." "I hope you love....." "I hope you always remember...." etc. etc.  About 9 of those.  I guess the parents will read them when they get home.
  
  I brought my mom to a hole in the wall bar on Saturday and she LOVED it.  I honestly couldn't believe she loved it as much as she did.  Also - she's way cooler than me, so I should have expected that.
  
  We also went to see "Bridget Jones' Baby" on Sunday and it was actually cute and pretty funny (funnier towards the end).   When I got home from dropping her off yesterday, I noticed on facebook that the debate was on again and i was deciding if I was going to watch it or not.  I went with Family Guy instead.   Fiery car crash < The Griffin's.
  
   
  

  
  

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  October 2016

  Good luck with the interview @VarunaTT, sounds like an interesting position. 
  
  Weekend in New York was great, but I'm exhausted. 
  
  I was only going to watch the opening question of the debate but I couldn't help it and stayed up way too late to finish it. It was maddening. The rape culture, the fascism, and the lack of any coherent policy from Trump isn't entirely surprising (sadly), but the fact that his supporters aren't swayed by any of this. For people who claim to love the constitution how do they stand by someone who has so little respect for it?

  

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• VarunaTT member

  

  October 2016

  His followers don't love the Constitution, post Bill of Rights.
  
  Also, I still want someone to write an alternative history based on the failed amendment of proportional representation.  Our government would've turned out very differently, I think.  It's an interesting mental exercise, anyway.

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• Heffalump member

  

  October 2016

  VarunaTT said:

  His followers don't love the Constitution, post Bill of Rights.
  
  

  And even then, their Bill of Rights love seems to be focused almost exclusively on the second amendment.
  

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  October 2016

  VarunaTT said:

  His followers don't love the Constitution, post Bill of Rights.
  
  Also, I still want someone to write an alternative history based on the failed amendment of proportional representation.  Our government would've turned out very differently, I think.  It's an interesting mental exercise, anyway.

  It's possible they only love the first two amendments as well. 
  
  A PR system would have produced substantially different outcomes. Even a PR distribution of electoral college votes would likely mean we'd have pretty different election outcomes. 

  

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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  October 2016

  I'm going to start participating in your daily threats.  I feel like I participate in every other thread on here, so why not the daily one!

  I am having an old friend from Ireland staying with us on Tuesday night, so this weekend was mostly cleaning the house.  That included the dogs.  We had to take them to my MILs house because we have no working tub at the moment.  We are in the middle of a bathroom remodel, we are in the home stretch, but still need to paint and do the floors in there.  Our yellow lab Betsey actually looks yellow again, instead of gray!  She was a smelly dirty mess that one!

  When not cleaning, I was filling out the baby registry.  I feel so lost because I don't know how much of everything I need.  I know there will be things I've registered for that will probably never be used.  I can't really follow the guides from the store because they want you to get 10 of everything ever possibly made for baby.  They are hidden right now, but I will probably send them to my friend to review.  She's been there, done this before!  Also - diaper bags are hella expensive!

  Tonight will be more cleaning.  Thankfully H is off today for Columbus day, so he can take care of the floors while I'm at work.  H is also studying for test 2 of 3 for a certification his boss wants him to get.  He takes his next test tomorrow.  I know he's prepared and ready, so I hope he kicks butt and passes this one.  He is on track to obtain the full cert by the time the baby comes which should be more money for him and me being able to take the full amount of leave NJ offers.  Fingers crossed!

  

  

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• Heffalump member

  

  October 2016

  OliveOilsMom said:

  When not cleaning, I was filling out the baby registry.  I feel so lost because I don't know how much of everything I need.  I know there will be things I've registered for that will probably never be used.  I can't really follow the guides from the store because they want you to get 10 of everything ever possibly made for baby.  They are hidden right now, but I will probably send them to my friend to review.  She's been there, done this before!  Also - diaper bags are hella expensive!

  People will always tell you not to get a wipes warmer because it's frivolous and dumb.  I didn't have one for DD (my summer baby), but DS--the most laid back baby ever--would wail when a cool wipe touched his bare bottom.  I got a wipes warmer and he was happy.  So I'm not saying get a wipes warmer, I'm just saying that you'll probably end up rethinking some stuff after the baby arrives, and it will all work out.

  My unsolicited advice is to buy a lot of sheets.  With DD, I bought like I would for our bed, not taking into account that she would spit up on the regular, drool all over her sheets, blowouts, etc.  I feel like I washed her sheets about as often as I washed her actual outfits early on, and ended up buying tons more just to keep us going.

  Also, I think this is common knowledge (?), but stay away from newborn sizes until you actually see your kid.  I have tall kids, and newborn diapers and clothes lasted a couple of weeks, at most.  (I think DS was in 3M by the time he came home from the hospital.)
  

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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  October 2016

  @Heffalump Thank you! I have 4 sheets registered for now, but I'll add some more.  Based on my nieces and nephews we make tall kids in my family, so going on the same assumption my baby will be tall, I'm mostly avoiding the newborn sized clothes. 

  

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• CharmedPam member

  

  October 2016

  OliveOilsMom said:

  When not cleaning, I was filling out the baby registry.  I feel so lost because I don't know how much of everything I need.  I know there will be things I've registered for that will probably never be used.  I can't really follow the guides from the store because they want you to get 10 of everything ever possibly made for baby.  They are hidden right now, but I will probably send them to my friend to review.  She's been there, done this before!  Also - diaper bags are hella expensive!
  

  Ok, so the baby shower I went to yesterday, the sister (host) of my SIL created the baby registry.  She is also the only one who knows the sex of the child (which is odd too) but when my brother and SIL were opening everything it was like they were seeing it for the first time.  "awww that's cute!"  and I was like "of course it's cute.  You put it on your registry!" 
  
  But then her sister then said something about adding it to the registry and she seemed to know a heck of a lot about it on the facebook group she was posting on, so it kinda made sense that she created it. 
  
  My question is: Is that normal?  For the host to create the registry so everything is really a "surprise" to the parents to be as they open up the gifts?

  
  

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• kimmiinthemitten member

  

  October 2016

  @Heffalump the 10 years ago argument just burns me.  10 years ago he was 60, CEO of a global enterprise, flirting with politics for at least 6 years, a newlywed with a baby on the way and a father to two young women, or as he calls them "fine pieces of ass."  
  
  And I hope Billy Bush gets fired over this.  If a coworker of mine just laughed at another man making those comments about me, and then coerced me to hug him right after, I would report him to HR so fast.
  
  @charlotte989875 - not the first amendment either, Trump wants to make it easier to sue for slander and libel.  All of the people celebrating his jail threats enrage me too.  You only like it because you dislike her, but it's tyrannical to threaten to  jail your political opponent.  But then again, these are the same people who don't understand why forcing people to stand for the National Anthem is no different than being in North Korea.  Oh the low bar we set for ourselves!
  
  @OliveOilsMom welcome to the daily threads!!

  
  

  

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• kvruns member

  

  October 2016

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  When not cleaning, I was filling out the baby registry.  I feel so lost because I don't know how much of everything I need.  I know there will be things I've registered for that will probably never be used.  I can't really follow the guides from the store because they want you to get 10 of everything ever possibly made for baby.  They are hidden right now, but I will probably send them to my friend to review.  She's been there, done this before!  Also - diaper bags are hella expensive!

  
  

  I used Lucy's List to make ours (just google Lucy's List), I walked in to each store with a piece of paper with the items I wanted to put on and the brands/styles I'd read about that seemed to be the best fit. It wasn't perfect but it was way better than the lists the stores give you. When we got home I went through the lists the stores gave and added some stuff they suggested and have added random things since then if I felt like there wasn't enough choice on there. 
  
  I added a few outfits to ours thinking it would work for those who want to buy clothes for a shower but thus far they are still sitting there unpurchased. Surprisingly I only received maybe 3 outfits at the shower last month, I thought for sure I'd get a ton since we still have a lot of stuff left on the registry so I figured people were just buying outfits instead. 
  
  I'm also pretty active on my local baby resale FB group because some stuff I just couldn't register for. like a $60 playmat they will use for a couple months, I bought for $8 used. Or a bumbo thing and tray (which I dont really understand) I paid $10 and it's over $50 in the store. Too many baby things are just crazy expensive and unless it was a must have I have opted to just get some stuff on my own. 
  
  

  

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• kvruns member

  

  October 2016

  CharmedPam said:

  OliveOilsMom said:

  When not cleaning, I was filling out the baby registry.  I feel so lost because I don't know how much of everything I need.  I know there will be things I've registered for that will probably never be used.  I can't really follow the guides from the store because they want you to get 10 of everything ever possibly made for baby.  They are hidden right now, but I will probably send them to my friend to review.  She's been there, done this before!  Also - diaper bags are hella expensive!
  

  Ok, so the baby shower I went to yesterday, the sister (host) of my SIL created the baby registry.  She is also the only one who knows the sex of the child (which is odd too) but when my brother and SIL were opening everything it was like they were seeing it for the first time.  "awww that's cute!"  and I was like "of course it's cute.  You put it on your registry!" 
  
  But then her sister then said something about adding it to the registry and she seemed to know a heck of a lot about it on the facebook group she was posting on, so it kinda made sense that she created it. 
  
  My question is: Is that normal?  For the host to create the registry so everything is really a "surprise" to the parents to be as they open up the gifts?
  
  
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  @charmedpam that is really weird!  Exception, when by best friend was pregnant when we were 24 and it was unplanned, unwanted/not well received, she hadn't been telling anyone but we wanted to do a small shower for her to celebrate. So I worked with her mom and made a small registry - I'd hate to look at it now because I knew nothing about babies and I can't even imagine what we put on there LOL. 
  
  But other than that I find it to be very strange to make it for someone else. Unless they know exactly the styles of stuff you want or if you've already bought or been given stuff, how in the world do they know. Maybe if someone is passive and just doesn't care at all about what type of items they have but it just seems ODD

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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  October 2016

  @CharmedPamI think that is weird to have someone else make up your entire registry.  As a first time mom, I appreciate all of these words of wisdoms coming from other who have BTDT and for the words my friend will give me after she looks at the lists.  I just can't imagine not doing the list at all.

  I always thought that I'd like to be surprised by the gender at the shower.  Before the gender reveal party became a thing.  I'd just register for all gender neutral stuff, then whoever hosted the shower would tell the guests.  I would then arrive to find out what the gender is and most likely gifted clothes for that gender.  But I just couldn't wait to find out!  I'm still avoiding overly "girly" things because we plan on having a 2nd kid and would like to reuse as much as possible in case its a boy.

  @kvruns I will look into Lucy's lists. Thanks!  I have also joined a few fb groups for baby stuff.  There is also a big kids consignment store in my area, which I will also hit up at some point.

  

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• DrillSergeantCat member

  

  October 2016

  @OliveOilsMom it's Lucie's List. I was just on there Friday because I need a double stroller. I have 4 sheets for LO and I don't really go through them that quickly. With the amount of laundry you'll be doing, you won't notice a sheet here and there. The one thing I really wanted that we never got was swaddlers, we got swaddle blankets, but it's not the same. My H is a fantastic swaddler, but I don't get them tight enough so the little swaddle sacks would have been great for me. Don't register for too many receiving blankets, they are pretty small and you can't swaddle with them for long. Don't register for anything that goes on or in a car seat as they can void the manufacturer's warranty. Go ahead and register for things for when baby is a little older like spoons, potty chair, high chair. My high chair is a 3-in-1 so it can grow with him. I don't have a wipe warmer and never needed it, it's funny how divisive that apparatus is!
  
  This weekend I got hardly anything accomplished that I had intended. Oh well. It was a nice relaxing weekend. OU beat Texas! 

  

  

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• *Barbie* member

  

  October 2016

  howdy from TX. 
  cold from hell turned into bronchitis - doctor confirmed it on saturday and was on board with giving me the nuclear option since I'll be leaving for Montreal on Saturday. 
  tile guys were at the house on Friday and Saturday, and it's looking good so far. they ran out of the glass mosaic, so hopefully it won't take too long to get the rest. they are supposed to come today to do what they can (more on the bathroom floor/tub top/grout the laundry room, complete kitchen/nook fixes) 
  I like the tile crew. hopefully they can get the mosaic and get everything done by tomorrow. 
  i skipped the debate last night and played video games. I'm very happy with this choice. I had no desire to see that clusterfuck. 
  
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  One of the laundry room - the dogs destroyed the walls, so we tiled them. 
  
  

  

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• CharmedPam member

  

  October 2016

  @*Barbie*  sorry about the bronchitis   But your color scheme in the bathroom looks AMAZING.  Good job!
  

  
  

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• charlotte989875 member

  

  October 2016

  Love the tile Barbie! Looks fantastic. 
  
  @kimmiinthemitten glad the party went well! Where did you all go in the limo bus? Love the boobs not penises for the decor. 

  

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• GBCK member

  

  October 2016

  Barbie, I love how that's coming along!
  
  Re:politics for a minute--ya'll know that I don't talk a lot of politics, right?  So humor me for one second.  I've been trying, in spite of life getting in the way, to keep up this year.  Politics are important and all of that.
  So how is it that the comments about the central park 5 got ZERO airplay?
  Like 48 hours later I finally found out about them.
  I understand why 'grab them by the pussy' was a 'better' (worse?) sound bite, but...it kinda grinds my gears that the GOP is only caring when something is directed at white women...that blatant racism is barely a footnote.
  (And, kudos to McCain for mentioning it in his retraction of endorsement)
  
  That all aside, I've been fighting a migraine since...well, since I saw my new neuro on Thursday.  It went ino overdrive the weekend.  Last night, I took good (usually knock me out) meds...and they kinda worked on the pain, but I was in bed wide awake w/ killer nausea until 4 am...which is when the sleep deprivation headache started.  Which, of course, I can't really medicate because all of the meds further mess with my sleep.  So I did not watch most of the debate--it's more infuriating while medicated.
  
  But, beyond that, the Mr. and I drove to Dearborn to buy a vanity and we went to visit BIL and SIL and the kiddo had a lseepover w/ my ILs and we installed a door and a new step.
  All busy goodness, except head.
  
  

  

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• bleve0821 member

  

  October 2016

  I painted the bathroom this morning. Well, primed it, anyway. Well, half of it, anyway, before I succumbed to the fumes.
  
  That was three hours ago and I still feel funny. So now I'm sitting on my swing in the garden trying to focus enough to prep for my final performance review tomorrow, but the Kilz is still kilzing me. (I found that waaaaaaay too funny)
  
  We went bowling and to dinner Saturday, finished landscaping, and had another chat about house guests. I think we are both finally on the same page, but now everyone is calling me to figure out plans for the weekend. I can't decide if this is better or worse than just having a discussion. I'm less hormonal so my outlook, at least, is better.
  

  
  

  "And when they use our atoms to make new lives, they won’t just be able to take one, they’ll have to take two, one of you and one of me..."
  

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• kimmiinthemitten member

  

  October 2016

  @*barbie* everything is turning out so well!  I can't wait to see the finished bathroom!
  
  @GBCK - right?!  It doesn't matter that they've been exonerated, or what the facts state.  Trump thinks they're guilty.  It's the new line of the GOP, facts don't matter, gut instinct does.
  
  @charlotte989875 we started off in Royal Oak and then headed downtown.  We went to Delux, Pappy's and some rooftop bar before heading back to RO.  We had a scavenger hunt too, so I met a guy named Sean from Cleveland who bought us both blow job shots, took a pic with 5 guys, got someone to do the running man, got advice from a married couple on a date, mimicked someones dancing on the dance floor, wrote our names on a bathroom stall and almost got a whole bar to do the Whip and NeNe.  Oh and I forgot, we had inflatable boob balloons so the girls were making before and afters for me!
  
  @AtomicBlonde I'm glad you guys keep talking about this and making progress!

  
  

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• *Barbie* member

  

  October 2016

  @GBCK - i feel for you on the migraine. apparently I got a letter from my insurance company that they're not going to be covering my abortive in 2017. I have a decent stockpile at home (with expiration dates into 2019) so i'm probably going to stock up this year and hope that it holds me over for a while. 

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• levioosa member

  

  October 2016

  Can we also talk about how Trump's "apology" was not even close to a real apology.  All of the people supporting him are giving him a pat on the back, and it sounded like an apology a five year old throwing a temper tantrum would have said.  "I'm really sorry I hit Billy, but he started it and yesterday he hid my favorite toy! And it wasn't even a real hit!  I barely touched him! You should see him hit!"

  
  

  Today is a lot of studying.  I decided that diet and exercise are on the back burner until next week, and I went to get Starbucks to get motivated.  I feel like the closer my exam gets, the more paralyzed I feel with trying to prepare.  It was unanimous in our group that dieting is a bad idea right now.  I thought it was just me until our group text the other day at 2 am.
  
  Me: I just stress ate a bowl of ice cream.
  
  Friend#1: I just had two bowls.
  
  Friend #2: I was so stressed I Amazon Primed ice-cream to myself and have eaten the whole thing.  
  
  Friend #3: I'm just drinking.  

  
  

  This is my life now. lol

  
  

  
  

  

  

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• kimmiinthemitten member

  

  October 2016

  @levioosa Friend 2 is my new life goal!

  
  

  

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• levioosa member

  

  October 2016

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  @levioosa Friend 2 is my new life goal!

  Right?  I'm so jealous of her metropolitan Amazon Prime life.  Prime at my house is still 1-2 days.  I WANT THAT TWO HOUR PRIME LIFE.  

  
  

  
  

  

  

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• Heffalump member

  

  October 2016

  GBCK said:

  
  So how is it that the comments about the central park 5 got ZERO airplay?
  Like 48 hours later I finally found out about them.
  I understand why 'grab them by the pussy' was a 'better' (worse?) sound bite, but...it kinda grinds my gears that the GOP is only caring when something is directed at white women...that blatant racism is barely a footnote.
  (And, kudos to McCain for mentioning it in his retraction of endorsement)
  
  

  That is exactly when I became aware of his Central Park 5 comments, as well.  I had to Google when I read McCain's statement and was like "Whaaaaaaa?"

  I shouldn't be surprised that someone who doesn't believe in climate change also doesn't believe in DNA.
  

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• short+sassy member

  

  October 2016

  levioosa said:

  kimmiinthemitten said:

  @levioosa Friend 2 is my new life goal!

  Right?  I'm so jealous of her metropolitan Amazon Prime life.  Prime at my house is still 1-2 days.  I WANT THAT TWO HOUR PRIME LIFE.  

  
  I didn't even understand that part of the post until now, lol.  I'm sure backwater NOLA will get that kind of goodness in a decade or two.

  

  

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• SaintPaulGal member

  

  October 2016

  First day back at work after a week and a day off for vacation.  I was dreading coming back to find ten billion things pending, but it has been a surprisingly chill day.  Don't get me wrong, there are at least 5 billion threads I need to pick back up on.  But no alarm bells going off and nobody freaking out about my time away.
  
  No word from the job interview I had the week before I left.  I keep obsessively refreshing my email on my phone, but nothing yet.  The person I interviewed with seemed very positive back then, wanting to set up a time ASAP for me to meet with her boss, and she assured me that my taking a week off wouldn't adversely affect my chances.  On the day I left she wished me a good trip and said we would reconnect when I was back in the country.  Now it's nearing the end of the day.  I know Mondays are busy and I'm not her priority #1 even if she does choose to hire me, but holy shit do I hate waiting.  Waiting is probably one of the things I am the absolute worst at.
  
  I just found out that one of my best friends got engaged this weekend!  I'm happy for her because she is happy about it, but honestly I think the guy is kind of an asshole.  Well, maybe not an asshole, but...I don't really know how to describe it.  When they are together it's almost like the two of them are acting out a script about how a well-to-do young couple should be rather than actually, you know, just being two people in love.  Like they fall into this super rigid schema where he has scotch night with the boys and she buys designer handbags and men are from Mars and women are from Venus, amirite?  That's just not the version of her that I used to know--an awesome, liberated bi lady who didn't give a fuck about society's dictates.  It also doesn't endear the dude to me that he has been promising to propose for years but not actually doing it for one stupid reason or another.  It has to be perfect/she can't be expecting it/she has to have been in her job for at least a year(????!)/he's an engineer so he has to have it all planned out (and that takes years?)/he wants to buy a house first/etc, etc, etc.  I'm trying really, really hard not to judge their relationship because I'm not the one living inside of it, but...

  

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