Had I only invited people I knew personally, I would have excluded my husband's grandmother.
Had I invited partners I approved of and exceeded six months only, I would have excluded the best man's now wife.
Had I assumed no one would care if they were not given a guest, my own grandmother wouldn't have come.
My point is that just because it's your wedding day, you don't get to treat people like shit.
And you can pretend not to care what your single friends do, but your posts reek of judgment and it's disgusting. Obviously you think you're better than them, but the least you could do is pretend not to be so superior and arrogant and give them a damn guest if they want.
She's inviting all her friends in relationships. Her definition of "serious" is "my friend told me it's their significant other". This is the same as TKs. She is not allowing her single guests to have plus ones. If a friend really wants to bring a plus one, they can call her and explain. Can we let this go without calling her a terrible person who hates her friends?
We are only inviting 26 people to our wedding and do not have a wedding party. Around 6 of our guests are single. On our wedding website we included FAQs and one was "Can I bring a guest?" For the response we stated that spouses and significant others from long term relationships are welcome and to contact us about any specific situations.
I'm fine with truly single guests not being invited with a plus one, but you lost me with the rude sleeping around comment. I can't imagine being someone's top 26 favorite people while simultaneously being judged by that person.
Had I only invited people I knew personally, I would have excluded my husband's grandmother.
Had I invited partners I approved of and exceeded six months only, I would have excluded the best man's now wife.
Had I assumed no one would care if they were not given a guest, my own grandmother wouldn't have come.
My point is that just because it's your wedding day, you don't get to treat people like shit.
And you can pretend not to care what your single friends do, but your posts reek of judgment and it's disgusting. Obviously you think you're better than them, but the least you could do is pretend not to be so superior and arrogant and give them a damn guest if they want.
She's inviting all her friends in relationships. Her definition of "serious" is "my friend told me it's their significant other". This is the same as TKs. She is not allowing her single guests to have plus ones. If a friend really wants to bring a plus one, they can call her and explain. Can we let this go without calling her a terrible person who hates her friends?
It just took a long time to get here. We can only respond to what she says, and she has also said she's drawing a line for plus ones, disapproves of friends sleeping around or spending their weekends on tinder. Had she just put it the way you did, she wouldn't have gotten any flack
I get what you are saying LauraLynn, someone who sleeps around casually is not in a relationship- but you'll notice PPs said anyone in a relationship should be invited regardless of length of time, they didn't tell you that you had to let your friends bring their latest fuck buddy.
But you are in the wrong for saying "only long term relationships" and defining that as 6 months- that is not for you to decide. I would hope with inviting 26 guests you'd have a good idea if your friends/family are in a relationship- if not, ASK!
Here are the questions @eileenrob you can tell me if you approve
1. How long have you been together?
2. How did you first meet?
3. Is Laura changing her last name?
4. How many people
will be at the wedding? Does this matter? I think not. Your guests don't need to know this.
5. Who is in the
wedding party?
6. Can I bring a guest to the wedding? Remove this. Anyone in a relationship should already be invited with their SO.
7. What should I wear? Remove this. Let people be adults and dress themselves. Unless your wedding is a true black tie event, there is no dress code. By all means, if there are special considerations, such as any portion of your wedding is outdoors, tell them that- but focus it on the venue "The ceremony will be outside" or "The ceremony will be on grass", not "you should wear a suit because it will be warmer" or "so don't wear heels!".
Here are the questions @eileenrob you can tell me if you approve
1. How long have you been together?
2. How did you first meet?
3. Is Laura changing her last name?
4. How many people
will be at the wedding?
5. Who is in the
wedding party?
6. Can I bring a guest to the wedding?
7. What should I wear?
Yeah...#6 and #7 are not appropriate questions. You invite all significant others, regardless of length of relationship. Period. SO and I were serious from the moment we agreed to date. We're still together almost four years later.
Question 7: You don't get to dictate what anyone wears. The only time you can indicate attire is black tie (true black tie--BTO is not a thing), and if the venue itself has requirements (men must wear ties, etc). Unless you are telling people there might be grass, or some other description of the venue, it's inappropriate.
I'm done with you all. Your opinions are not needed. I started out answering a question someone else posted and this ended up being a personal attack on me. Enjoy your weddings.This is all a bunch of bullshit that is too stressful.You all make me not want to have a wedding at all.
I approve of some but not all of the questions. As a guest reading a FAQ page I really need to know details pertaining to logistics- is your venue on some sort of terrain that I can't wear heels? Is there a parking lot that I have to pay for (and is it cash only)? Is the ceremony in a place of worship with a certain dress code? Etc.
I'm done with you all. Your opinions are not needed. I started out answering a question someone else posted and this ended up being a personal attack on me. Enjoy your weddings.This is all a bunch of bullshit that is too stressful.You all make me not want to have a wedding at all.
Nothing here was a personal attack. You posted on an open forum, and people responded to your post. If this is too stressful for you, you need to take a step back and reevaluate things. We're telling you how to treat your guests well. If you want to treat your guests poorly, that's on you.
And no one is making you have a wedding. If you wanted to elope, then elope. But your friends didn't make you have a wedding. You decided to have one because you felt like you were being pressured. Based on your response here, I bet your friends didn't say much beyond, "yay! So excited, can't wait for the wedding!" and you took it way too personally.
Had I only invited people I knew personally, I would have excluded my husband's grandmother.
Had I invited partners I approved of and exceeded six months only, I would have excluded the best man's now wife.
Had I assumed no one would care if they were not given a guest, my own grandmother wouldn't have come.
My point is that just because it's your wedding day, you don't get to treat people like shit.
And you can pretend not to care what your single friends do, but your posts reek of judgment and it's disgusting. Obviously you think you're better than them, but the least you could do is pretend not to be so superior and arrogant and give them a damn guest if they want.
She's inviting all her friends in relationships. Her definition of "serious" is "my friend told me it's their significant other". This is the same as TKs. She is not allowing her single guests to have plus ones. If a friend really wants to bring a plus one, they can call her and explain. Can we let this go without calling her a terrible person who hates her friends?
I wrote that post before I saw that she wasn't excluding partners. But I still stand by my point about the judgement of her friends' personal lives.
Had I only invited people I knew personally, I would have excluded my husband's grandmother.
Had I invited partners I approved of and exceeded six months only, I would have excluded the best man's now wife.
Had I assumed no one would care if they were not given a guest, my own grandmother wouldn't have come.
My point is that just because it's your wedding day, you don't get to treat people like shit.
And you can pretend not to care what your single friends do, but your posts reek of judgment and it's disgusting. Obviously you think you're better than them, but the least you could do is pretend not to be so superior and arrogant and give them a damn guest if they want.
She's inviting all her friends in relationships. Her definition of "serious" is "my friend told me it's their significant other". This is the same as TKs. She is not allowing her single guests to have plus ones. If a friend really wants to bring a plus one, they can call her and explain. Can we let this go without calling her a terrible person who hates her friends?
It just took a long time to get here. We can only respond to what she says, and she has also said she's drawing a line for plus ones, disapproves of friends sleeping around or spending their weekends on tinder. Had she just put it the way you did, she wouldn't have gotten any flack
And SO MUCH THIS.
If I said that I was only inviting white people who made over $50,000 per year to my wedding, and gave no further details, I would hope TK would have quite a bit to say about that and chew out my ass. It's purely coincidence that this was true but the way things are presented is important, IMHO.
Had I only invited people I knew personally, I would have excluded my husband's grandmother.
Had I invited partners I approved of and exceeded six months only, I would have excluded the best man's now wife.
Had I assumed no one would care if they were not given a guest, my own grandmother wouldn't have come.
My point is that just because it's your wedding day, you don't get to treat people like shit.
And you can pretend not to care what your single friends do, but your posts reek of judgment and it's disgusting. Obviously you think you're better than them, but the least you could do is pretend not to be so superior and arrogant and give them a damn guest if they want.
She's inviting all her friends in relationships. Her definition of "serious" is "my friend told me it's their significant other". This is the same as TKs. She is not allowing her single guests to have plus ones. If a friend really wants to bring a plus one, they can call her and explain. Can we let this go without calling her a terrible person who hates her friends?
Sorry but I have several friends that sleep around and I'm not dropping money on whoever they may be banging when they get the invite. 6 months or longer is what I consider long term.
Sorry but I have several friends that sleep around and I'm not dropping money on whoever they may be banging when they get the invite. 6 months or longer is what I consider long term.
Does anyone else have this stuck in their head?
That gif is wrong! There are one to many bangs between the two bangedys.
Sorry but I have several friends that sleep around and I'm not dropping money on whoever they may be banging when they get the invite. 6 months or longer is what I consider long term.
Does anyone else have this stuck in their head?
That gif is wrong! There are one to many bangs between the two bangedys.
Re: Plus ones for wedding party
She's inviting all her friends in relationships. Her definition of "serious" is "my friend told me it's their significant other". This is the same as TKs. She is not allowing her single guests to have plus ones. If a friend really wants to bring a plus one, they can call her and explain. Can we let this go without calling her a terrible person who hates her friends?
And I'd love to see these FAQs.
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But you are in the wrong for saying "only long term relationships" and defining that as 6 months- that is not for you to decide. I would hope with inviting 26 guests you'd have a good idea if your friends/family are in a relationship- if not, ASK!
Question 7: You don't get to dictate what anyone wears. The only time you can indicate attire is black tie (true black tie--BTO is not a thing), and if the venue itself has requirements (men must wear ties, etc). Unless you are telling people there might be grass, or some other description of the venue, it's inappropriate.
And SO MUCH THIS.
If I said that I was only inviting white people who made over $50,000 per year to my wedding, and gave no further details, I would hope TK would have quite a bit to say about that and chew out my ass. It's purely coincidence that this was true but the way things are presented is important, IMHO.
Does anyone else have this stuck in their head?
(What does it say about me that I know this?)