I was invited to a friend's destination wedding. Unfortunately, we had a trip already planned for just after the wedding date and could not afford to do both. We were also invited to a more local reception (still out of state for us, but could be a cheap flight or maybe a long drive). That reception was scheduled for during our trip. As we are planning and budgeting, we are realizing that we may not even be able to afford the trip that we have planned. I had already RSVP'd "no" to both the wedding and reception. But now it may be possible that we could attend the local reception. We're approximately 8 months out from their reception date. Do I just need to accept that I said no, and that is my answer. Or do I reach out to the bride (my friend) and explain the situation, and that we may be able to attend after all?