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Trying to Find My Place on theknot Boards

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edited November 2016 in Chit Chat
I have checked theme boards, but it's dead. My club board is dead quiet. There seems to be activity here, but I don't want to bombard this board with wedding flowers, accessories, attire, etc questions and posts.

I'm a second time bride, but that board is also dead.

I used theknot boards for my first wedding and it was so much fun. Too bad the vintage board is not like it used to be...

I could separate all of my posts on all different boards pertaining to each topic, but that kinda sucks. 

I loved it when I just had a great group of ladies (and some guys) that I could chat with about everything.

Not so sure where to go from here. 
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    People do tend to separate posts by topic here now, but the same people tend to comment across the boards, so you'll recognize the same usernames. Etiquette is a good place is you have questions regarding any issues that would affect your guests comfort. Moms and Maids/Wedding Party tend to be pretty active for family/friends related issues as well. Reception issues/Pre-Wedding parties also have similar posters and issues. 

    Chit Chat and Wedding Woes also tend to be pretty active for random topics, although we're happy to discuss wedding issues there as well. 
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  • RedheadIshidaRedheadIshida member
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    It's funny because I have already covered all of the etiquette and party issues here on theknot while planning my first wedding. I'm also not having a shower or engagement party. Just a pretty ceremony and reception at a restaurant with family and a few friends. 

    I'm glad I popped into the attire board. I love looking at that kind of stuff. 
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    RedheadIshida said:
    It's funny because I have already covered all of the etiquette and party issues here on theknot while planning my first wedding. I'm also not having a shower or engagement party. Just a pretty ceremony and reception at a restaurant with family and a few friends. 

    I'm glad I popped into the attire board. I love looking at that kind of stuff. 
    Glad you found that, it's fairly active. If you're not into wedding advice (by your follow up seems like you have the general plans?) and are looking more for day to day chat, WW is pretty active during the week, so is chit chat. I think NYE is too? I've never really been over there. 

    But specific wedding questions are generally split over the particular boards. 
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  • RedheadIshidaRedheadIshida member
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    I'm not sure what NYE is.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    NYE - Not Yet Engaged.


    Welcome!!






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    @charlotte989875  yeh NEY died about beginning of October
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  • kvrunskvruns member
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    @misskittydanger what happened? I thought it was a super active board? 
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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    @kvruns  not sure. I left about late August, but it was dying out.  At first it was issues with people signing in, or changing jobs and not having access, but it had been slowing down for awhile. One of the regs left TK {idk why} and a few others had kids, so couldn't be on often.

    Tbh I think some issues went down between a few people, and some may have gotten tired of the drama.
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    MissKittyDanger said:
    @charlotte989875  yeh NEY died about beginning of October
    Weird. They were always super active, albeit kind of exclusive. 
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    MissKittyDanger said:
    @kvruns  not sure. I left about late August, but it was dying out.  At first it was issues with people signing in, or changing jobs and not having access, but it had been slowing down for awhile. One of the regs left TK {idk why} and a few others had kids, so couldn't be on often.

    Tbh I think some issues went down between a few people, and some may have gotten tired of the drama.
    ahh gotcha. I had only lurked there a few times but it seemed like it always had daily threads with tons of replies maybe that was a few months ago that I last looked.
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  • kimmiinthemittenkimmiinthemitten member
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    @RedheadIshida welcome back! I would just pop into random conversations - but this post is a good start. Tell us more about yourself! @MissKittyDanger what happened to NEY?
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  • MissKittyDangerMissKittyDanger member
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    @kimmiinthemitten  I'm not sure entirely, but I feel like it started with a random thread that was posted about Uncommon Opinion, and I feel like it opened a can of worms about things. I could be wrong, but if I had to pin point it I would guess there.
    I know a few NEYers use to post in Chit Chat don't even post anymore :\
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    lyndausvi said:
    NYE - Not Yet Engaged.
    NEY - Not Engaged Yet
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  • jacques27jacques27 member
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    I think part of the issue is when they (theknot) redesigned their website to this horrific dashboard format where I can barely even scroll past all of the picture tiles to get to what I want, they removed the community (i.e. forum) link from the main toolbar at the top where it was sort of prominently displayed along with the links to local vendors, ideas, etiquette, etc.  So now the only places where you can find it is either if you happen to be able to scroll past all the tiles to the very very bottom of the page where there is a link in tiny font compared to their facebook, Instagram, and twitter links, or you click the tools dropdown menu and find the link there.  And I'm guessing most people don't think of "Community" as a tool since the other stuff in there is like registry set-up and guest-list manager.  I think fewer people are finding the forum boards since that redesign and thus less activity.


    I just assumed they did it on purpose because they are sick of drama and moderating boards.  There's another business (not wedding related) that hosts forums I used to frequent and whenever there was a big drama flare-up and people getting mad at the company or the moderators there always seemed to be a website redesign where the link to the forum boards would get mysteriously hidden making the boards harder to find. 
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    missJeanLouise said:
    charlotte989875 said:
    Heffalump said:
    charlotte989875 said:
    People do tend to separate posts by topic here now, but the same people tend to comment across the boards, so you'll recognize the same usernames. Etiquette is a good place is you have questions regarding any issues that would affect your guests comfort. Moms and Maids/Wedding Party tend to be pretty active for family/friends related issues as well. Reception issues/Pre-Wedding parties also have similar posters and issues. 

    Chit Chat and Wedding Woes also tend to be pretty active for random topics, although we're happy to discuss wedding issues there as well. 

    Random?!

    [skims over Dear Prudence letters, Halloween candy post, daily posts, 7-page vent thread]

    Okay, never mind.  Your story checks out.


    ETA: OP, feel free to pop in and introduce yourself.  WW is quite a bitter tamer than it was in olden times.

    My first browse over there I had NO idea what was going on with the Prudie letters. 
    @mrsconn23 has a lot of issues. ;)

    LMAO I'd never visited WW in my four years until a couple of months ago...I'd thought it was about things that went wrong at poster's weddings which is a little dull to me.  I was like WHAT THE HELL when I saw those Prudie posts i thought is was mrsconn at first too :D  and I don't have anything to contribute to the daily thread, but they do seem like a nice conversation/sense of community.
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    jacques27 said:
    I think part of the issue is when they (theknot) redesigned their website to this horrific dashboard format where I can barely even scroll past all of the picture tiles to get to what I want, they removed the community (i.e. forum) link from the main toolbar at the top where it was sort of prominently displayed along with the links to local vendors, ideas, etiquette, etc.  So now the only places where you can find it is either if you happen to be able to scroll past all the tiles to the very very bottom of the page where there is a link in tiny font compared to their facebook, Instagram, and twitter links, or you click the tools dropdown menu and find the link there.  And I'm guessing most people don't think of "Community" as a tool since the other stuff in there is like registry set-up and guest-list manager.  I think fewer people are finding the forum boards since that redesign and thus less activity.


    I just assumed they did it on purpose because they are sick of drama and moderating boards.  There's another business (not wedding related) that hosts forums I used to frequent and whenever there was a big drama flare-up and people getting mad at the company or the moderators there always seemed to be a website redesign where the link to the forum boards would get mysteriously hidden making the boards harder to find. 
    I think you are right; and I think that explains why this year there have been fewer BSC knottie# posts. Which is sad because drama threads are the most fun to read! 
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    Christmas is coming sooner than we might like.  All the newly engaged special snowflakes will post, looking for "support" for some bad ideas.  Just wait.  It happens every year.
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    CMGragain said:
    Christmas is coming sooner than we might like.  All the newly engaged special snowflakes will post, looking for "support" for some bad ideas.  Just wait.  It happens every year.
    Yay for outdoor winter weddings and hot cocoa bar receptions!
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  • RedheadIshidaRedheadIshida member
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    jacques27 said:
    I think part of the issue is when they (theknot) redesigned their website to this horrific dashboard format where I can barely even scroll past all of the picture tiles to get to what I want, they removed the community (i.e. forum) link from the main toolbar at the top where it was sort of prominently displayed along with the links to local vendors, ideas, etiquette, etc.  So now the only places where you can find it is either if you happen to be able to scroll past all the tiles to the very very bottom of the page where there is a link in tiny font compared to their facebook, Instagram, and twitter links, or you click the tools dropdown menu and find the link there.  And I'm guessing most people don't think of "Community" as a tool since the other stuff in there is like registry set-up and guest-list manager.  I think fewer people are finding the forum boards since that redesign and thus less activity.


    I just assumed they did it on purpose because they are sick of drama and moderating boards.  There's another business (not wedding related) that hosts forums I used to frequent and whenever there was a big drama flare-up and people getting mad at the company or the moderators there always seemed to be a website redesign where the link to the forum boards would get mysteriously hidden making the boards harder to find. 
    I totally agree. The new design sucks! I remember when the "Community" link was clearly visible. That's how I found it when planning my first wedding. I truly, truly miss the theme boards. I was both a vintage and gothic bride. It was a great place to get input about accessories and also just vent because the whole process changed for me so many times. 
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  • RedheadIshidaRedheadIshida member
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    I have posted on WW a bit. Some of the brides are snarky, and I don't have time for their crap. I'm not a virgin in this circus. Although, I absolutely LOVE looking at gown threads. I would work in a bridal salon if I had the chance, so it's heaven for me. I've seriously tried on over 100 gowns and dresses combined, since I have considered simple bridesmaids dresses as a wedding gown. 

    I wish WW would redesign their forums. It sucks. I'll deal with it, but come on...

    Sometimes I think about putting together a thread with all the gowns that I actually took pictures of. All sorts of different styles and colors. 
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  • charlotte989875charlotte989875 member
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    @RedheadIshida when I suggested posting on WW here I was referring to the Wedding Woes board, not Wedding Wire (which I assume you're referring to, and not us with the snarky bride/virgin comments). 

    ETA clarify words. 
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  • RedheadIshidaRedheadIshida member
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    Wedding woes..I had no clue. I might check it out. Yes, I am referring to wedding wire. 
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    Heffalump said:
    RedheadIshida said:
    Wedding woes..I had no clue. I might check it out. Yes, I am referring to wedding wire. 

    Wedding Woes is the original WW, although it is confusing now that those young whippersnappers at Wedding Wire are also using it.  [shakes fist]

    kimmiinthemitten said:
    CMGragain said:
    Christmas is coming sooner than we might like.  All the newly engaged special snowflakes will post, looking for "support" for some bad ideas.  Just wait.  It happens every year.
    Yay for outdoor winter weddings and hot cocoa bar receptions!

    Um...it was gourmet hot cocoa, IIRC.  You know, with toppings.  Toppings >>> being able to feel your toes.  Duh.

    thefanciestbeckler said:
    Come on over to WW! We are friendly and like newbies. In fact, several of us are new to that board due to an event on NEY earlier this year that I won't mention :)Most of us are married, but we are always happy to talk wedding talk and offer advice. 

    Those are the best people to offer wedding advice!  :)  It's not amateur hour over there.

    MobKaz said:
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    MissKittyDanger said:
    @charlotte989875  yeh NEY died about beginning of October
    Weird. They were always super active, albeit kind of exclusive. 
    Exclusive, to be sure.  I made a comment once or twice that proved to be quite unpopular.  I was pretty much told to get out of Dodge City.  


    SAME.  Also, I remember when someone who wasn't a reg commented on a thread there and basically was told

    So I posted a lurkers/welcome thread WW (at another poster's awesome suggestion) and referenced that post; someone asked me about it in the lurker thread and I made the mistake of linking to the NEY thread, so I got my hand slapped for linking.  (Damn me and my old TOS--I don't think I've read them in years.)  All I know is, WW had an influx of posters after that and has been all the better for it.  :)

    @jacques27, yeah, the redesign is just awful.  I can't decide if it's intentional (which you make a good case for), or just one more symptom of their general ineptitude (login issues, boxes, no gif on mobile, etc.). 

    Thanks for welcoming us in. Although my morning productivity has taken a hit since finding my way over there. 
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    charlotte989875 said:
    Thanks for welcoming us in. Although my morning productivity has taken a hit since finding my way over there. 
    *Nods head in agreement while sipping coffee and updating RSVP's at 10 am.
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