So we had an engagement party over the weekend, hosted by FFIL. I just want to clarify that people who brought gifts receive thank you notes? Or do all party attendees receive a note for attending?
We also had two people come up and say "The card/gift/whatever is in the mail." Should I wait til I receive it (if I do) to send a note?
Here's my question not regarding thank you notes:
FI and I live in a state different from his family. His ENTIRE family (both sides) live in or around the same state. My family is spread throughout the US. We are planning on having our wedding nearest to our current location, which means both of our families will end up traveling. We had several people tell us that "If you don't have a wedding (near FI family) no one will go," and more than once. I find this to be pretty rude. My response has been, "We hope everyone can make it but if not, they will be missed."
I know that this is a fine enough response, but is there anything I can say that will get that comment to stop? I tend to get frustrated when people repeatedly tell me the same thing over and over again and try to bully me into changing my decisions (without good reason), so I'd like a response that will stop that comment, rather than eventually getting frustrated and saying something that might be snarky or sarcastic.