I'm going to a wine tasting tonight. Originally I was going to go with H (he wasn't too excited about but knew I was so he was cool with it). I ran into a friend of mine, told her about it, and she was really excited about it too so I suggested we go together (which let H off the hook, so he was very supportive of this idea).
This friend has been notorious for ditching out at the last minute for one reason or another, but she's also been through a lot this last year, so everyone kind of lets it slide. So I wasn't too surprised to get a text that said 'I might not make it tonight.' I asked her what was up and she said her depression was just not good today.
I don't want to be overly pushy, but I also know holing up does not help someone when they're in a dark place. I told her I didn't want to force her to hang out, but that maybe some girl time was just what she needed. She agreed and said she was going to take a nap and let me know for sure after that.
I'm kind of bummed because I was excited about the wine tasting and I doubt she's going to come, but what would you do if faced with this situation with a friend? Just give up? Keep trying to make plans with her and having her ditch out? Anyone have some insight?