Thank you notes and a question

PrettyGirlLost · December 2016

This thread became a magnificent gift.

Knottie#'s- "Etiquette is not culturally universal. This site caters to white Americans. Come visit the UK where things like tiered weddings are ok as far as etiquette is concerned."

@LondonLisa - "Dufuq? How many times do I have to explain to you that only wankers think tiered weddings are anything but rude?"

@kimmiinthemitten -"You're conflating etiquette with cultural traditions. They are not the same."

Knottie#'s- *some convoluted retort attempting to prove etiquette differs by culture by claiming that racism in the US was at one time socially acceptable, conflating etiquette with what's socially acceptable, and throwing UK shad at the Colonials.*

There was some real fucking irony with that one, for those who have any idea who John Hawkins was. . .

@Keisha84- "I'm Caribbean as well, and you're just being rude. Stop using your culture as an excuse. #byefelicia"

MobKaz · December 2016

@amberdaisy1005 said, "I am going to host a wedding, within my budget, where EVERYONE is invited to the ceremony AND the reception AND has affordable accommodation nearby this location. Are they responsible for getting their asses to the state this is taking place? Yup. That's how weddings work. I was just invited to a friday wedding the friday AFTER a major american holiday in the middle of the damn day with a catholic gap that is 6 hours from me. I'm going to do my best to get there but if I cant make it, I'll send a gift and well wishes. THATS good etiquette. Making sure everyone is comfortable and fed and drinking and having fun, that's all I need to worry about. Should they choose not to come because they have to travel, then I will miss them.

Sorry, amberdaisy, I do not mean to nitpick, but the phrase "Catholic gap" makes me a tad ragey. I have attended several secular weddings that chose to have a gap, as well as other religious weddings that chose to have a gap. My daughter had a Catholic wedding and chose NOT to have a gap. The gap is not a "Catholic" thing. It is a CHOICE that inconsiderate couples choose to make.

ellamber · December 2016

MobKaz said:

@amberdaisy1005 said, "I am going to host a wedding, within my budget, where EVERYONE is invited to the ceremony AND the reception AND has affordable accommodation nearby this location. Are they responsible for getting their asses to the state this is taking place? Yup. That's how weddings work. I was just invited to a friday wedding the friday AFTER a major american holiday in the middle of the damn day with a catholic gap that is 6 hours from me. I'm going to do my best to get there but if I cant make it, I'll send a gift and well wishes. THATS good etiquette. Making sure everyone is comfortable and fed and drinking and having fun, that's all I need to worry about. Should they choose not to come because they have to travel, then I will miss them.

Sorry, amberdaisy, I do not mean to nitpick, but the phrase "Catholic gap" makes me a tad ragey. I have attended several secular weddings that chose to have a gap, as well as other religious weddings that chose to have a gap. My daughter had a Catholic wedding and chose NOT to have a gap. The gap is not a "Catholic" thing. It is a CHOICE that inconsiderate couples choose to make.

You're right, when I hear my FI's side of the family talk about it, that's how they phrase it. So writing quickly without thinking, that's how it came out. I apologize. The only weddings I have been to with a gap have been catholic weddings, but that is irrelevant. I'm just hoping I won't be approved to get the time off for it

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