Two Year Wedding Timeline

Re: Two Year Wedding Timeline

• LondonLisa member

  

  December 2016 edited December 2016

  This all seems way, way off. I'm glad this schedule worked for you, but this is in no way representative of what it's actually like.
  
  Wedding party shouldn't be chosen more than 9 months out- relationships change! Look at the number of women who asked people 24-18 months out on these boards who are lamenting their friends aren't close anymore!
  
  Honestly, final fitting of your dress 3 months out is insane! Any good seamstress worth their salt will say 3 WEEKS at most. 
  
  There should be 0 tasks to delegate. Your bridal party is required to show up and support you, not work your wedding for free! 
  
  You say invites 2 months before the wedding but table plans and rsvps a month before the wedding- do you plan on giving people 3 weeks turn around?!
  
  You should also not be ordering stationery before you have numbers of attendance. 
  
  And how tacky that you would bug a friend with calligraphy skills to work for free! If your friend has a skill, you should definitely offer to pay market rate. 
  
  I'm glad this schedule worked for you but it is in no way industry standard or indicative of good ettiquite. 
  
  Or is this just a pathetic advert for your sad blog?

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• SP29 member

  

  December 2016

  I agree to wait to choose your wedding party, wait a bit longer to buy your dress, definitely wait longer to buy the WP dress (P.S. they should not be required to buy accessories- if they do, the B/G should be covering this. Let them manage their own fittings- they are adults, they don't need their hands held). And no delegation of tasks to anyone but the B&G. People can offer to help you, but no one is required or should be expected to.
  
  Any vendor related items can be booked well in advance (such as 12-24 months out), because all you are doing is book that venue or vendor for the day. Finalizing what you are getting comes closer to the wedding.
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  December 2016 edited December 2016

  OP, it is rude to delete or alter your original question.  You received good advice.  Others might benefit by your question.  You cannot close a discussion.  Only the moderators can do that.  So rude to the people who have been kind enough to take their time to try and help you.  Please don't do this again.
  

  

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• randomslove member

  

  December 2016

  I was really interested in seeing and giving my opinion on this, since I am in the final weeks of a 20-month-long engagement.
  
  We researched for a few months before doing anything but setting a date. The first thing we did officially was book our venue (a year and a half early). I also got my wedding dress (not always the smartest idea, but I haven't changed in size since I was 12-- hit puberty, filled out, stopped growing. I'm 27 and can still fit in my seventh-grade formal gown). Everything else we waited until a year out to start really planning. Got our photographer exactly 13 months before the wedding, and everything else done one about a normal timeline.
  
  For anyone looking at this point for ideas for planning your own long engagement, I highly suggest enjoying the extra research time, and getting the practical, contractual stuff out of the way as soon as you're sure it's what you want. Do the "normal" timeline for invites and deciding WP.
  

  
  
  
  
  
  

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