Hi all,
We sent STDs to guests who will need to make travel arrangements - two responded (parents' friends, and an aunt) that they unfortunately would not be able to attend. Both in writing (i.e. engagement congrats cards, "sorry we can't make it!), and in person to my parents, and FMIL. In both cases, they have booked and paid for international travel for their vacations.
So despite this being a pretty solid decline, I assumed I'd be sending them invites anyway, since everyone who gets a STD gets an invite. There are also a few other relatives who my mom and FMIL have said "oh they're probably not coming" - obviously still getting invites.
But my question is about the two who have responded in writing to myself and FI directly, that they can't come. Mom and FMIL think it's gift-grabby and odd to send invites when someone has so explicitly explained why they won't be there.
I get their logic, but also get the etiquette.
Of course, if their travel plans changed, they're still welcome to the wedding. No b-listing happening here. And they're close enough that we would know if their plans were changing.
Thoughts?