Thank you everyone for your replies. I probably am just being overly sensitive and making a big deal out of it and making it look like I'm a queen bee.
Its just my my first time being engaged and ever really thinking about a wedding. I'm being pulled in alll different directions of what I should and shouldn't be doing and what my wedding party should and shouldn't be doing.
And it just hurts that a friend for 20+ years is distancing herself from me. I get it, we're all growing up. I just wasn't sure what I was doing wrong.
ive never actually been to a wedding until last year. So I have no idea what I'm doing. As for my mother, she was married 26 years ago so they did things a lot differently.
As for my shower venue, that venue was my choice. I was asked where or what I wanted as an idea for them. My choice was a jack and Jill barbecue at a park or in someone's back yard. The venue choice was another bridesmaid's idea.
But again, thanks everyone for your replies.