I had five bridesmaids stand down. I understand life happens. Two of them had gotten pregnant so they couldn't stand and I understood their situation because babies are expensive so I said they could still come to the wedding. One was going through a rough time with financial aspects and was going through court so I understood she couldn't stand. My last two...well one was my sister in law. I had asked her to stand but prior to that my fiance asked her if she could help out with cleaning or helping set up, anything really. Then she went behind his back and told his family "we shouldn't be begging for things like this". So because the other ladies had stood down, my fiancee thought I should ask her despite her saying negative things. I complied and she said "no not my thing". Mind you she was sending me pictures of designs and everything before my fiancee asked her for help. So because it isn't her thing, should she still be invited since a wedding isn't her thing? She doesn't seem very supportive either. My fiancee said he doesn't want to invite her either, but then he says he wants to. Keeps going back and forth. And my last bridesmaid to stand down said every excuse in the book to not stand. She said she couldn't find a sitter, didn't have money, was too fat, etc. Then recently she asked if she can still come to the wedding and that she will find a sitter. She constantly goes shopping and travels. She left it to the last minute to tell me she couldnt stand. It was a slap to the face because it made me feel like she just didn't want to be apart of my big day.
She also made some hints that I should pay for her dress. But I told her it just wasn't financially feasible for me because we spent well over $15,000.00 just to feed and entertain everyone. Plus I am expecting my first child.
I had given everyone a year in advance to save for $250.00 for the dress...