I picked my bridesmaid because we have lived together for 3 years and she was with FI and I throughout dating and when we got engaged.
2 years ago we had a falling out when we went on a beach holiday: she ran into the sea and left her money on the beach, someone stole it. She then borrowed money from me and drank 6 shots of tequila in one go, kissed my brother and punched me.
We made up, I gave her the benefit of the doubt and asked her to be my bridesmaid. things have been very tense and we fall out a lot. I have asked her several times if she wants to be a bridesmaid but she keeps on saying yes.
When I ask if we can sit down and plan she's always busy and never bothers to ask to rearrange. If we're in a group talking about the wedding she'll start turning it on herself, saying things like "doesn't it make you imagine what your wedding is going to be like? Mines going to be....". Every time the girls start planning the bacholorette party she refuses to take part, she said she's too busy to deal with the stress.
This week I told her the room arrangements for the hotel and she flipped out at me (the whole weekend would cost her 100 dollars). She refused to pay for a room outright, but I have bought everyone's dresses, will pay for their hair and have arranged their makeup.
She still owes me money for the bacholorette party flights, so I don't know what to do? We're not on speaking terms for the time being, but I know she's going to add extra stress to my day.