I'm a BM for my friends upcoming wedding in May. She's having a shower in April, in which I was invited to but declined. She lives update NY and I live in IL, so she's understanding of me not going.
Do I still have to mail her a gift? Her MIL made a comment like "all your BM's should chip in on that one gift on your registry"....and I don't know if it's still customary to send a gift I'm not going? Of course I was planning on slipping some cash in a card on the wedding day but I'm not sure if it's in poor taste to not send a gift?