Some context first:
Second wedding for me, first for him.
Between us we, have 4 kids.
We're thinking September, out of town.
I've planned my first wedding, and have helped plan others... but I've not done out of town/destination, so I'm trying to think about everything that needs to get done if we want to have a small ceremony/reception, and I'm stressing a little about things I may have missed.
Other than the obvious... what is there to consider for out of town weddings? Do I need to give extra notice to people, given the additional cost if they choose to attend? What about kids? They'll be welcome, but what's the right way to deal with kids at an out of town wedding?
How do you deal with venues/vendors if you're not on site? It's a very small town... so there's not much in terms of pictures/websites/online research...