Hi everyone! I'm new here so forgive me if this sounds like a question that is always asked. I've done a lot of research/reading for weeks and would now just like some insights from this group.
I'm getting married in 6+ months so I'm down to the wire with needing to ask my BMs. My fiancé has 7 GM so I know I will at least have 7, maybe 8-9. I have 6 decided including my MOH who is my sister) but I'm torn on the last ones. I've been blessed with a lot of great, wonderful friends so far in my life, which is making this even harder.
Friend 1 - My best friend since HS. We were like sister's in HS as she spent a ton of time with my family. I was in her wedding 8 years ago. We don't live in the same city and often go months without talking but we never skip a beat when we are together. She's friends with one of my other BMs from HS but doesn't really know the others besides my sister. I don't think that really matters but just something I think about.
Friend 2 - One of my best friends from college. We lived together in college and have remained great friends, often times traveling together in the past. We keep in touch over text or g-chat every few weeks, as we also live in different cities, but don't talk on a regular basis. Part of me thinks she'd probably appreciate not being asked to be in a wedding, but another part of me thinks her feelings would be hurt if she was not. Especially if I ask Friend 3.
Friend 3 - We became best friends after college, when we lived in the same city and she was going through a really hard time. We are also still close and never skip a beat but she no longer lives in the same time as me, is married and has two kids. She's not great about keeping in touch, especially when she has a lot going on, but recently she has been reaching out a lot and wanting to help with everything. My concern is that she may have too much going on with her kids (one is only 3 months old) and Friend 2 and 3 are almost like a package. They live in the same city so we always see each other together. And often times with one of my other BMs who is also best friends with them.
Friend 4 - My newest best friend (2+ years) but by far the one I am closest to out of the 4 listed here. We currently live in the same town, hang out very frequently and talk almost every day. She's just a great, easy-going best friend who I know would do anything for me and would totally be excited to be in the wedding. She's been a great sounding board for a lot of things (my fiancé and I don't live in the same town) and even though I am about to move, I know we will remain close friends. My concern is how some of my other friends will react if I ask her and not them (like friends 2 & 3).
I have another friend who I'm pretty set on reading at my wedding because we are very close and she is by far my most spiritual friend so I would really appreciate that and think she would too.
Based on the above, what are your thoughts on who I should choose if I just choose 1? What about 2?
I really hope this does not sound trivial because it certainly is not to me. I'm terrible at making decisions about anything and when it comes to such wonderful friends, this one isn't easy.