Seems AWish to me . . . What do you think?

OurWildKingdom · May 2017

http://fromseptembertomrsmay.blogspot.com/2017/05/my-teachers-getting-married.html

LondonLisa · May 2017

If my child spent a day giving attention to the teacher instead of doing maths, literature, etc I wouldn't be happy. I'm all for classroom parties and themed art, but this is one step away from the teacher hijacking the day to throw a birthday party for herself.

It's incredibly AW. My primary school teacher got married when I was in her class and my mum helped me make a card for her. But it was bc my mum was teaching me about celebrating others.

I always learned in primary school that unless everyone was invited to the party, you shouldn't speak about it.

charlotte989875 · May 2017

This is absurd. It's AW, it's distracting from children's education, and it's completely unnecessary. If I was a parent I'd be pissed my kid was participating.

downtondiva · May 2017

I think I'm going to vomit.

ernursej · May 2017

I had a teacher that did a whole week of for a fancy party theme where all the different subjects were around planning and attending a 'fancy party'. We did math to deal with how many portions/servings, wrote invitations/speeches/thank you notes for English, looked up customs and traditions for the Social Studies aspect and did dancing for gym. It certainly wasn't a wedding (I would side eye the hell out of the that), but I did like the party theme. I think it also had a component on manners and general party etiquette.

OurWildKingdom · May 2017

ernursej said:

I had a teacher that did a whole week of for a fancy party theme where all the different subjects were around planning and attending a 'fancy party'. We did math to deal with how many portions/servings, wrote invitations/speeches/thank you notes for English, looked up customs and traditions for the Social Studies aspect and did dancing for gym. It certainly wasn't a wedding (I would side eye the hell out of the that), but I did like the party theme. I think it also had a component on manners and general party etiquette.

This is a cute idea, because a fancy party could be anything, not just a wedding.

My sixth grade class did throw a baby shower for our teacher, but that was our idea. She was surprised that we pulled it off without her knowledge.

MobKaz · May 2017

Holy No!

Our district has cut out almost every holiday party. I think we are down to Halloween and Winter Break parties. They do NOT go on for an entire afternoon. The parties are typically the last hour of the school day.

This goes beyond AW. I hope she doesn't have a week's worth of activities for the honeymoon!

sparklepants41 · May 2017

MobKaz said:

Holy No!

Our district has cut out almost every holiday party. I think we are down to Halloween and Winter Break parties. They do NOT go on for an entire afternoon. The parties are typically the last hour of the school day.

This goes beyond AW. I hope she doesn't have a week's worth of activities for the honeymoon!

That's when she's teaching sex ed.

Heffalump · May 2017

MobKaz said:

Holy No!

Our district has cut out almost every holiday party. I think we are down to Halloween and Winter Break parties. They do NOT go on for an entire afternoon. The parties are typically the last hour of the school day.

This goes beyond AW. I hope she doesn't have a week's worth of activities for the honeymoon!

Here, too. For Valentine's Day, we got an email saying that if kids wanted to bring valentines, they could. But they would have to be passed out during morning snack, so DD's teacher asked that they not individually address them, because it would take too much time to hand them out. (DD, being DD, decided then that she would write general messages in them, like "I like playing tag with you at recess" because, as she told me "I play tag with pretty much anyone, so it works no matter who gets it!")

Here's the thing: I love when teachers bring in real world interests to augment and reinforce their teaching. However, I also think that this thing is 100% driven by the teacher, not her students. There is no way that they are all interested in playing Teacher's Wedding for a couple of weeks leading up to the wedding. She sounds self-involved to me. My daughter has liked all three of her teachers so far, but if one were getting married, she would hardly be heartbroken at not getting an invite. (Unless they had a Kona Ice truck at the reception. Then all bets are off.)

This just reads like another out of control bride yelling "ME! ME! LOOK AT MEEEE!" Not a good look.

southernbelle0915 · May 2017

Gross. This is all I could think the whole time I read this...which really was just the first couple paragraphs because....barf!
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coffeeparty · May 2017

It's not just AW, it's also shilling her own product (downloadable school wedding kit for $10) to sucker other teachers into embarrassing themselves in the same way.

banana468 · May 2017

You want parents to dress their kids in their "Best clothes"for your pretend day.????

FUUUUUUUUUUUCK NO. No. Chiquita alone is so rough on clothes I refuse to put her in light clothing if it's nice out.

I'm not dressing my children for your self-indulgent week. And if you'e teaching elementary school, there's a solid chance you have plenty of kids in your class who have parents married in the last 10 ish years who will find this eyeroll worthy at best - and completely unacceptable at worst.

mollybarker11 · May 2017

Nnnnope no nuh-uh.

It's just so weird in every way. If she was teaching her students about planning / hosting parties like @ernursej mentioned I'd think it was neat, but still very weird that's she used her own wedding as the reason. All this seems to be is a day for the children to do crafts and fawn over the adult woman meant to be instructing them. Truly bizarre.

bleve0821 · May 2017

She's getting married at the tail-end of the school year, if not after summer starts. I know all I cared about as a 6yo in May was when summer break started, not whether or not I was invited to a grown-up party (which I never, ever cared about, either).

Also, if her wedding falls after school is out, why does she even think a 6yo would care if s/he was invited to a wedding? I can't remember my first grade teacher, or whether she was a Ms. or a Mrs. They'll have a different teacher in September and probably won't even remember this one exists.

But I'm sure the parents will remember her, for all the wrong reasons. I would.

short+sassy · May 2017

What's the next event? The kids practicing their handwriting by writing her TY notes? Oh goodie, yay! Another way for them to be involved in her day, lol.

DrillSergeantCat · May 2017

As a parent, I would not appreciate so much time being taken away from my child's education for this. If it were just a few hours of one day, I'd see where it would be a nice, fun break for the kids, but this is too much. She's taking weeks of their education to focus on herself. I remember any time our teacher wanted to change her lesson plan, she had to get special permission. I can't see anyone approving this.

It's also extra gross to me that she's selling this BS to other teachers.

@atomicblonde My first grade teacher was Ms. Bonavida. I don't remember if it was Miss or Mrs., just that she was so mean!

short+sassy · May 2017

I kind of vaguely remember one of my elementary school teachers was getting married. Her FI stopped by one afternoon and brought cupcakes. I'm assuming it was a few days before they were getting married. She introduced him to us and we all had a short break to go say hi and eat our cupcakes.

We really liked him. Because, you know, we were kids and easily bribed with sweets, lol.

Especially in comparison to the teacher in that link, I think that was the perfect amount of celebration for a classroom.

ILoveBeachMusic · May 2017

DD's third grade teacher got married in Hawaii over Christmas break that year. The Room Moms organized a surprise shower which was held at the end of the day maybe even in conjunction with the Christmas party (back then they were allowed). I thought that was appropriate. I think the teacher brought in her album when she had it but I'm not sure.

sparklepants41 · May 2017

And of course she has a Honeyfund.

bleve0821 · May 2017

I read this to DH last night, and as I was reading it in depth for the first time, I got to the part about her instagram-ing the day, and I was just floored. I understand that in the digital age, there's almost no privacy, but I think it's extremely unprofessional for a first grade teacher to instagram during the school day, let alone post photos of her students.

Maybe *I'm* way off base with that, but if I were a parent I'd be PISSED. Photos of my kid should not show up online without my consent.

sparklepants41 · May 2017

atomicblonde said:

I read this to DH last night, and as I was reading it in depth for the first time, I got to the part about her instagram-ing the day, and I was just floored. I understand that in the digital age, there's almost no privacy, but I think it's extremely unprofessional for a first grade teacher to instagram during the school day, let alone post photos of her students.

Maybe *I'm* way off base with that, but if I were a parent I'd be PISSED. Photos of my kid should not show up online without my consent.

I don't think you are off base at all. Most school systems that I am familiar with require parents to sign permission slips allowing their children (under 18) to be photographed, filmed, etc. for promotion/broadcast.

bleve0821 · May 2017

sparklepants41 said:

atomicblonde said:

I read this to DH last night, and as I was reading it in depth for the first time, I got to the part about her instagram-ing the day, and I was just floored. I understand that in the digital age, there's almost no privacy, but I think it's extremely unprofessional for a first grade teacher to instagram during the school day, let alone post photos of her students.

Maybe *I'm* way off base with that, but if I were a parent I'd be PISSED. Photos of my kid should not show up online without my consent.

I don't think you are off base at all. Most school systems that I am familiar with require parents to sign permission slips allowing their children (under 18) to be photographed, filmed, etc. for promotion/broadcast.

I would assume that permission would be solely for school use, not for personal use like this teacher would be using the photos for, i.e to promote herself and her "store" on her personal IG account. What if there's a student in her class who had a parent who did not give consent?

sparklepants41 · May 2017

atomicblonde said:

sparklepants41 said:

atomicblonde said:

I read this to DH last night, and as I was reading it in depth for the first time, I got to the part about her instagram-ing the day, and I was just floored. I understand that in the digital age, there's almost no privacy, but I think it's extremely unprofessional for a first grade teacher to instagram during the school day, let alone post photos of her students.

Maybe *I'm* way off base with that, but if I were a parent I'd be PISSED. Photos of my kid should not show up online without my consent.

I don't think you are off base at all. Most school systems that I am familiar with require parents to sign permission slips allowing their children (under 18) to be photographed, filmed, etc. for promotion/broadcast.

I would assume that permission would be solely for school use, not for personal use like this teacher would be using the photos for, i.e to promote herself and her "store" on her personal IG account. What if there's a student in her class who had a parent who did not give consent?

One of the design firms I used to work for did a lot of K12 work. We would get permission from the Principal and teachers to go into the finished space with a professional photographer to take finished photography that would then be used to promote our firm's work. The kids, who ranged in age from 4 (Pre-K) to 18 (HS seniors) would be photographed in the various spaces within the buildings to not only convey scale, but also an active learning setting. We would make sure - with the principal and superintendent of schools - that waivers had been signed that would cover instances like professional photography. All children would have their parents notified in advance of the photo shoot as well, to cover any additional bases. Any class who had a child whose parents had not signed the waiver would not be photographed (to not only avoid accidentally photographing the child, but also to avoid singling anyone out and creating an embarrassing situation for that child). So there are instances where permission would be granted for promotional use (albeit rare instances) BUT what this AW blogger is doing is not acceptable IMO.

lnixon8 · May 2017

It wasn't even just one day! She had a paper chain countdown thing...ugh!

MCmeow · May 2017

This is soooo cringy

kwiksilver · May 2017

Reminds me of my cousin, who had her classroom throw her a baby shower... I think it was her 3rd or 4th shower. Totes necessary.

OurWildKingdom · May 2017

kwiksilver said:

Reminds me of my cousin, who had her classroom throw her a baby shower... I think it was her 3rd or 4th shower. Totes necessary.

Sheesh. That's obnoxious.

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