Sorry, I have to start the Monday post.
The wedding I was in, was very very nice. She made a few faux pas but she had more than enough food and wine/beer which I was afraid of since she told me she ordered for 20 less people than she was having (no way did she!). One big faux pas was 15 chairs out for 100 people (guess only the elderly were able to sit?). It was a 10 minute ceremony but that's besides the point. Also - she had no directions for anyone to bring them back UP to the reception room so a bunch of guys finally volunteered.
When she was in her early states of planning, she asked me, and two friends of mine (in email) who helps set up? I said something along the lines of "don't ask but if anyone offers, take them up on it!". My other friend said "the bridal party does. that's how it's done in my family". so we left it at that...when I was just a regular guest I then said "i'll help!" to be nice. But then I turned into a bridesmaid along the way.
Well on Friday night, at the dinner I asked her when she wanted us there. She said 10 (for a 2:00 ceremony) and mentioned that we'd be helping set up. Fine. OK. Whatevs.
Later on, during the reception, the bride sat next to me (I was alone and couldn't stand on my feet any longer) and I said something like "so our friend wants to go to the bar and watch the basketball game (I was the one with the rental) but I'm soooo tired. I hope she's OK with it back at the hotel?"
"yeah, but after you guys help clean up, right?" She asks
"oh yeah, we're not leaving now"....but man was I taken aback at that comment. I think this is something I should volunteer for....not be asked to do? And with the set up - I felt completely useless anyway because she had no direction and we had NO idea what she wanted done. Same as the breakdown, no direction and we didn't really know what to do besides put the tables/chairs away. It's not like we could pack some strangers car.
But really, it was a beautiful day despite those things.