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Wedding Invitations & Paper
cosmicjazzie
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What do you think about my RSVP?
Hello, I am curious to know what others think about my RSVP rough-draft. Does the wording seem right? I know it isn't traditional, but I wanted guests to know what style of food it is and that it is buffet-style because I would appreciate knowing ahead of time if I was a guest. We will have a cash bar because we don't drink alcohol and we honestly didn't want any at our wedding at all, but we think that people may appreciate having the option if they absolutely must. Thanks so much for your opinions!!
Re: What do you think about my RSVP?
And lose the cash bar. You are not required to provide alcohol to your guests, but you are required to pay for everything you offer your guests. Your reception is your gesture of thanks to your guests for attending your wedding ceremony, and expecting them to pay for it themselves is one of the rudest and most ungracious acts you could commit.
Also, invitations and replies do not properly refer to the hospitality offered. Guests are expected to graciously accept whatever the hosts provide, in the form offered, as long as the hosts provide sufficient food and non-alcoholic beverages for the time of day the reception is taking place.
I agree with the PP. What if I secretly don't like you and am "Joyfully Declining" or "Sadly Accepting". Don't tell me how to feel.
Also, please don't have a cash bar. You don't have to offer alcohol, but you have to pay for everything you offer. Would you invite people to your house for dinner, serve them lemonade, then charge them $5 if they asked for a glass of wine? If they ask for wine, THEY'RE the ones being rude.
I think the leaf design is really pretty.
Additionally, the lines where guests indicate the names of those attending has the potential to allow added names not on invitation.
Please do not indicate a cash bar, nor offer one.
I love the floral design at the top.
What's a New Mexican buffet?
Actually, I'd keep the names. I had guests write the number of guests attending. If anyone had added an extra, I would have called them up and clarified the invitation. There was some confusion when one of my cousins wrote 1 guest attending, meaning her boyfriend (who I invited by name). This was the first wedding she'd been to and she thought she wasn't counted as a guest because she's family.
Having the names written out would have been helpful to me.
Will be present
and
Regretfully unable to attend.
Kinda standard - but I guess I wonder if what you wrote it ok? I'd be interested to know why people don't like the 'sadly' and 'joyfully'- the sadly isn't that far from regretfully.
I also think it's important to have a place for names- we didn't have one and I've now received back some rsvp's and I have no idea who they're from! grr
I'd also remind you to put you website info somewhere - I've just had my friend ask if we're not using it anymore because we forgot to put in on our paper invites!! so annoying.
Learn from my mistakes
PS- bo to the cash bar. They suck.
This is not at all standard, at least in the USA. Standard is this:
Accepts
Declines (or, Unable to attend)
The idea is that you do not assume the invitees feelings and put word in their mouth. No "regretfully". Personally, I am old school, and I write my own responses to invitations.
Exactly. This is why "regretfully" or "sadly" is a bad idea.
I guess I've just always seen that so that's what we did.
I think also that I'm not so shocked or affected by wording like that.