I saw an instragram post the other day that I think is a good intro into this vent. "They'll try to make you out to be crazy for demanding shit that really should be the minimum."
I am a bride planning a wedding from afar that is to take place in my home state. My fiance's family and friends live in the midwest and everyone will be coming together for the wedding in the NW. I used to be a wedding planner and never envied those who were planning from afar. Not being able to run around and meet vendors has been a big frustration on its own.
Because most of my fiance's family and friends live in the rural midwest we ended up ordering tux's off of Black Tux so it could all be done by fedex. My Fiance and I paid for all the bridesmaid dresses and tuxes. I'm getting very upset at the bestman and one groomsmen who have been reminded once a week for the last few weeks to get their measurements in. They received the email last Christmas for instructions on how to enter their measurements. We are approaching the date where we will be charged a late fee and my fiance thinks I'm nagging them too much. I see it as extremely rude on their part considering we are paying for their tux's and will take on the late fee, as well as the late fee if they do not return on time. We also got an airbnb for us, my brother and the two guys. My brother has been the only one to offer to help with the cost. We are a month out and the bestman still hasn't bought his plane ticket and has started to complain to my fiance about the price. My fiance wants to help him out but I put my foot down considering he has known about this wedding for 8 months and we are paying for his tux and airbnb.
On to the wedding guests...not to offend anyone from the rural midwest but is etiquette just not a recurring theme out there?! We are a week away from our RSVP deadline and not one person outside of my fiance's immediate family has RSVPd. His dad alone has 6 brothers and sisters and they average about 5 people per family. We asked his parents if they could please remind everyone and to have them send in their RSVPs. They responded with a list of "guesstimates" and said that it should be pretty accurate. This makes my blood boil as the count needs to be accurate for multiple things and I do not have time to manually RSVP everyone.
I just don't think people understand how much work goes into everything and the fact that they cant take the 2 min. for the ONE thing they have to do really hurts my feelings considering we are spending so much of our hard earned money on them.